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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Good morning @Mazarita @CheerBear @Bunniekins @outlander @Appleblossom and all here today.

Off to a sluggish start here today after 6 short sleeps overnight. Not much planned here for today yet. Various domestic and garden chores I could be doing, and the exercise bike unridden since about Saturday, and as usual the shower patiently waiting for me, but I'm ok about all that - not pressuring myself today. Thursday will be my rest day I think.

More support worker hours next week - Tuesday afternoon, Wednesday mid morn til late afternoon, and the Sunday afternoon. Now I just have to come up with activities to do with them. Yes it means much more chance for community involvement, health and well being stuff and travel training, but it's been forever that I've never had this kind of support and I kinda don't know what to do with all the freedom, if that makes sense.

There's the obvious grocery and other shopping, chemist, and essential appointments but that only adds up to about 6 hours a fortnight and I'll have support for 10 1/2 hours a week! I've been telling the support workers as I meet them that one of the things I need help with is finding and planning activities so I look forward to seeing what they come up with. I have to keep telling myself they are there to help me, it's still hard to believe.

Looking forward to chatting if anyone is around.

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@Mazarita Hi Mazzy how are you going and thank you for your kind wishes. My appointment is actually tomorrow but I will be thinking of all my friends on Sane and try and be a brave pea although it will be hard. I do have my mental health nurse today which should be fun. She has a beautiful Irish accent which makes me smile when I hear it. I could listen to Irish accents all day long 🙂

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Mazy @Mazarita
I've been thinking about the Rubber Ducky, I was, for real thinking I might get him out today {I haven't since I got back . . . } Hope yours is sparkling now 😄 Yay for the reverse psychology ploy working !**! Maybe I'll give that a try, . . I say as I look at the 3 suitcases still on my lounge room floor 😉 {I think I'm delaying putting them away 'cause they're keeping it real 🙂 } Love to you
@outlander
Your welcome with the tag, I often think of you If it's ok to say, why haven't you been online {or maybe tag me in the thread that talks about it? - or not, it's all fine} I'm good 🙂 I'm thinking about getting the wonderful hot water system going & having a bathing day 🙂 The little dog needs more shaving & clean hair is best for that, there's been a few days now, where I've seriously thought of putting the fan on 😮 {already!}. + I'm looking for excuses to go into town, so that while I'm in there I can take the dogs for an off-lead walk. It's crazy, but at the moment I have to go in town to do so as the 1080 baiting occurred only a couple of weeks back & it takes a month before it's safe to go back into the forests. Looks like marg & a couple more DVDs from the library will give me that excuse 🙂 Talking about walks, yesterday I ended up walking around the roads that surround the properties in my area, I didn't really intend to, but we'd already gone boths ways up & down my road & around my property this week, so when I was out there, I decided the Staffy needed something more, something different {he's already
starting to go stir crazy!} We were about half way down the bitchumen road, there's 1
we have to go down if we're to do a circuit; when a lady drove out of her property &
over to us! 😮 I hate it when someone talks sweetly & tries to come across as helpful,
when really all they're doing is trying to force their own opionions on you! She told me of some dogs that have been 'wandering' along her road. I don't know if she was accusing mine, as she mentioned a couple of 'pig' dogs; along with 'Pit Bulls'. American staffies are often refered to as 'pig dogs', or if she thought it wasn't safe to walk along the road, as she mentioned they might 'go' my little dog & told me to be careful. My little dog was tied to my staffies harness & my staffies lead was connected to my belt. I was carrying my cattle prod, {which she mentioned I'd have to get close enough to use - I didn't say anything, but I know the prod is a last resort, it's for if the dogs get too close to me, my dogs are tied to me - so it's for if they get to close to us}. I don't know how much more 'careful' I could be? & if the dog problem has gotten that bad that they're attacking people walking their dogs on the roads {don't care if their dirt, their public roads!} - then more needs to be done about them. I personally don't think these are 'wild' or 'feral' dogs, I think their unrestrained pets. I have come across a couple . . . they run away! Phew, that ended up being a bit of a rave 😉 Love to you
@Shaz51
Those 'fun & games' don't sound very funny! Hope your lunch was enjoyable after all the poking & proding Love to you, Mr Shaz & your Mum
@eth
I hope you slept better last night I'm glad you trust your therapist & can open up
truthfully with them. I know they're not your friend but I think it's vital to have a link with someone you believe, believes you; someone you can trust, trusts you. Even if they don't understand you, they may understand your behaviours. They may not know you, but they have spent years learning about peoples individual reactions & I think most importantly how those reactions are different in everyone
@Bunniekins
Good luck with your first appointment of Friday
@Teej
I'm glad to hear you are ok Hugs for the scatterbrain, those days kind of make me angry . . . with myself, but I think the anger comes from fear - that I'm 'losing it' & 'it'
won't come back . . . & by 'it' I think I mean my ablity to feel calm, never loan joy. So for now I'm sending you some middle ground, not up not down, not even love or happiness,
just 'it'
@Appleblossom
Just want to say 'Hi' for when you next visit

Love to all who need or want it

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@outlander I am going out with my mental health nurse on a 'adventure' :). Am happily nervous as this is only our second outing. It is all about getting me out of the house and into the community. Have you got anything planned for today outlander? xxx

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@eth Hi eth so much support for you is wonderful I am so happy for you. My worker wants me to apply for NDIS funding I am very nervous about it all ... I will have to do some back reading on your thread to see how you went about it all from the beginning. I am off with my mental health worker this morning for 'adventures' so who knows what we will get up to. She is Irish from down south and has this musical accent I just love it it make my smile :).

Enjoy your 'pea'ceful day at home and ps: It has been day 3 of no showers for this lil stinky pea 😛

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Hi @Exoplanet and @Bunniekins best wishes for successful outings to both of you.

@Exoplanet yes I agree about the need for a trusted person who really hears us. I would say my psychologist does know me very well by now as I've been seeing her for over a year. But new stuff still comes up in most sessions. I think that's down to her skill. It's been really good focussing on positives, albeit small ones far and few between, the last 2 sessions with her. I'm looking forward to the EMDR process with hope.

@Bunniekins thanks for your support. I really hope my thread helps you and am happy to answer any questions you have if you're not up to reading it all back. The thing to focus on is that I was successful eventually.

Sounds like you really like your worker. I hope you have a fun adventure (mysterious!)

I find having a wash and using wet wipes (the one's for babies) is a good way to prevent getting stinky between showers.

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Hi @Mazarita and @outlander how is today for you both so far?

Maz I like your idea of not stating your plans for the day and then writing about them afterwards. Even if we're anonymous it can sometimes feel like being accountable to others when we state our job list in advance. It can be a downer to then share what we didn't do later on. Congrats on yesterday's achievements. Good for you, mystery woman!

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@eth My mental nurse is a character that is for sure 'adventures' was her word. She wants me at movies, at the beach, on picnics all sorts of places and hopefully she will help me gain much needed confidence to do these things finally on my own. My mi has given my self confidence a real battering ... strange but apparently one of the symptoms aye what can you do but keep 'keep on trucking' as @Dadcaringalone says.

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Very vague recollection of Basil trying to pretend someone not dead @Bunniekins apparently there weren’t that many episodes, well less than people might think Good Morning 😀

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@TAB Good morning TABs 😄 yes there were not many episodes my kids grew up on them that and Father Ted and Black Adder :).

What have you got on today?

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