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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Thats wonderful @Appleblossom sounds like an overal lovley environment

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@outlander, it's been another tough day here, mainly sleeping again. My mind is going too fast and in negative veins. My mantras are starting to fail. At least it's a soft warm bed I'm feeling that way in. But, I'm taking it all slowly and am okay. As always, trying to be patient with myself as much as possible.

Have you found a new GP? I used to very piecemeal with doctors, didn't care who I saw and only went when things were at their worst. These days I feel having a good GP who has known me over years, and good psychiatrist and psychologist, help keep me as sane as I can be with it all. I hope you can find better support structures over time.

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A soft warm bed makes things just a little easier @Mazarita are all these thought popping up because you stopped your medication or is there a trigger? Happy to listen if you need to talk at all ❤

I had a gp reccomended to me and i seen ber once before and she was alright bur i havent been. I cat seem to make that call. I went to the chemist tonight and was very close to panic walking past my gp thinking about making an appt. My gp and chemist are in the same building and next to each other. I just couldnt walk in there!
I know ill have to eventually go though. My psychiatrist appt isnt until September its the earliest they had and i made it a few months ago. Im on the waitlist for headspace for counselling as well.

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Everyone learns in different ways and has different strengths. @outlander It has been a very slow journey. I never had to worry about him speeding or driving under the influence, which is common with young men.

It is good you and @Mazarita can share some frustration about physical issues when young. Its not fair, but fighting the reality of your own body does not help.

So many times for me ... when my mind is on high speed ... mantras are not effective. I still believe and practise daily ... even if its "breathe" ... "gently" ... @Mazarita

I was told by some guru that I needed a 3 syllable mantra to calm me down ... there was something in that .. I did ... om namah shivayah ... a lot!

Lovely to have your friendship too @outlander & @Mazarita

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Good on you for organising what you have, @outlander. No beating yourself up over not making the call or being able to go in there. It will happen in time, when you're ready.

I'm not really sure what is going with the bouncing around of negative thoughts and worries. It could be the med washing out. I only stopped taking it on Saturday. Or the anxieties and depression might be arising from something else. I'm not sure there was a trigger other than starting that med I've now just stopped.

I hope Headspace comes up for you soon.

@Appleblossom, I've used that mantra you mentioned before too. I like the ones I've been saying in my mind in recent days: 'free', 'now', partly because they are words that have meaning in English. But with my brain the way it is at the moment, it sometimes takes those words and bounces them quickly around my mind too! I like 'breathe' and 'gently'.

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That is good re your son @Appleblossom youve taught him well too.

It is good we can share things. Im not fighting them so to speak but it has to constantly go through these battles. Just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other i suppose.

Im not really a mantra person so to speak but i often have to remind myself to 'breathe' i tend to do alot of breath holding. But it really does vary between each person and what matter most is that it helps that person to cope.
It is lovley to have your friendship too ❤

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That is true @Mazarita thanks ❤
Brains are weird they dont need a reason to make life difficult. Does anything help when your in this sort of state?

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I used to cling to the mantras @Mazarita@ Now I am gentle with focussing. However if my mind is wired, I have to let it run its course. Its like a bucking bronco. Needs a horse trainer .. ha ha @outlander or a cleaner ... the thoughts have to be mopped up and the dirty water . .. down the drain ...

Lovely to talk but I am going to get ready for bed.

Good Night.

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Goodnight, @Appleblossom. Sleep well bella.

@outlander, what helps when I'm like this is sleep, lol.

For tomorrow...

Hi @Exoplanet, thank you for that dazzling dandelion wish. Like something from a fairytale.

Hi @eth, snoozing in front of the telly sounds relaxing. Hope Thursday is a good day for you. It's heading towards being that new day as I write now, close to midnight.

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Haha @Appleblossom gives a new meaning to 'hold onto ya hats'!
Good night, sleep well 😴
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