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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Getting a dressing gown from England is a great idea @Mazarita! Mine is giant men's dressing gown but it's not the warmest anymore. Yay for hearts on slippers! I have big black furry boot things. They're very cool 😁

It sounds like a long day for you. I hope you make it there, though can understand how extra challenging it may be to do without sleep.

Today I had planned on spending time with my new guy friend but last night the person staying with me came home from the hospital feeling very down and miserable, so I think it might be best to spend the day with them instead before they head back to the hospital this afternoon. I don't know what we'll do as they're not feeling up to much. I feel bad, but I'm not really keen on spending the whole day feeling miserable with them. It's a complicated, big feelings situation for all. I suggested we go to the movies together. It won't take too much energy and it might be a nice time out distraction maybe. We'll see ☺

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Movie sounds like a really good suggestion, especially if you pick a good film between you, @CheerBear. What kind of movie would most distract you?

I was watching an old b&w movie, young romantic comedy. Enjoyed what I saw of it, including a song, it was a semi-musical movie.

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You have such interesting choices in shows and movies @Mazarita! Does C enjoy the same kinds of shows?

I have a real problem with sitting still long enough to watch much of anything. I haven't sat through a movie from start to finish for a long time, outside of a cinema which I do rarely and with the kids so it's animated usually. The only reason I sit through it then is because I'm stuck in the cinema, and I love when they ask to go to the bathroom etc as it gives me a moment of out.

So long story short (lol) I have no idea what would be a good distraction! If we go, I'll ask person to decide and then spend the hour and a half breathing and practicing trying to concentrate and focus (and will probably fail at it).

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C is up and I've just had cereal and a brief chat, @CheerBear. He's probably not in the mood for talking too much really. Thinking I could catch a taxi there and back from the neurologist. I'm not in the best shape for the public buses really, a bit unsteady on my feet too.

Totally relate to what you say about not watching whole movies. I can't remember the last movie I watched end to end.

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Sending you lots of ❤ @Mazarita. It sounds a bit daunting maybe, especially with being unsteady on your feet. I hope it works out for you today. Will be thinking of you and looki g forward to hearing how you get on.

I better get moving. All are up and lunches are calling now. The movie "Adrift" might be what's on for us today. There's not much else on that looks remotely interesting at our local cinema. I'll charge my phone and play Simon's cat crunch time if I have to 😆

Big hi to all and thanks for the tags which I wanted to reply to but didn't get to last night. Hope the day goes well for all.

💗

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Lots of back atcha, @CheerBear.

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Just rescheduled my neurology appointment for about a month away. Better than being out there on the buses, or even in taxis, with no sleep and headache that is threating too much with serious nausea. Couple of close calls already, one just now. Even if I can't sleep, it's safer to be home in this state. Feel good about doing what I've done. Even if I'm sick, I can be easy with how I take this day now.

Hope it's relaxed day all round and to all.

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Good morning everyone. I have a few pages to catch up on but will say Hi first -- Hi first!!

@Mazarita @CheerBear@Appleblossom@Bunniekins@PeppiPatty@outlander @Sophia1 @Shaz51 @Exoplanet and anyone else around this morning.

Hope you're all having a nice peaceful start to today xx

Sorry @Mazarita I just read you're feeling crook this morning. Take it easy love. Hope you start to feel better soon xx

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Hi @eth, still here. Morning has broken and sun is shining on the palms, wooden paling fence and next door rooftop. A glimpse of blue sky.

I seem to be less nauseous sitting in this chair for now.

Hope your day unfolds gently. ox

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Hey @PeppiPatty really love the dinosaur cartoon - LOL!!

I was in public housing for 11 years until I came here. Had another stint of it back in the 90's too but foolishly gave up my terrace house in Glebe to go off on a manic adventure - oh the stories I could tell! I don't own the place I'm in, my brother and his wife do, but they are comitted to helping me stay stable so I think I'll be here for some time. Are you still in public housing? How is it where you are?

@Bunniekins I really hope your leg heals swiftly and you're not in too much pain and that you can rest it a lot today.

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