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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Mazarita@Sophia1 ^^^^

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Hello @Bunniekins

I would love to do that for you both....more if I remember...have to also wait for them to be close to the fence....I will have a look at past photographs....I did take some ages ago....

remind me as well please..

@eth yes we are classed as rural...house is under contract....fingers and everything else crossed that it goes through smoothly...

will definitely miss the cows and horses...

laugh when I was walking I used to also drive down to where our block of land is in the town near the river and walk around there....

when we move I will probably ...when able to walk again....drive up here and walk around here still to catch up with the cows and horses...

hope that your anxiety is starting to ease a little for you....a lot for you to take in...once some of the support comes into fruition you will probably feel less anxious...I do get it though...

take care all

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@Bunniekins, I too think of living in the country again someday. There is a town about an hour from here that I've visited a fair few times. C and I were even thinking of moving there about 10 years ago, went down and stayed in a local pub to see what it felt like being there overnight. Had cool chats with friendly locals at the pub. One was a farmer, the other an artist. I like that mix! Anyway, we stayed in a bigger city for C to be able to get work. But that place still seems to call me. Wouldn't surprise me if we ended up there. Maybe both of us wild women could end up out in the bush! Sounds like it would be really good for your son.

@Sophia1, I talk to the birds a fair bit, just saying hello mostly. And on the beach yesterday, a little spaniel pup came running up to me, ears flapping, as I was walking barefoot in the water, leaned against me happily while I gave a pat and talked to him/her. Those are special moments for me, not having any pets at home.

@eth, just had a scare of a phone message myself, had to ring the agent who thought we hadn't paid the rent last week. Sorted now, paid it last Tuesday, but a moment of apprehension there!

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We might bump into each other @Mazarita you will know me I will be the one bouncing down the street in the sweet pea jumper! 🙂

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thanks for the tag @eth
I hope you are enjoying your day today

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@Bunniekins, I'll also be looking out for the iced vovo jacket.

Well, I am now washed and dressed (champagne corks fly). Ready for when my friend rings sometime this afternoon to collect me for a visit. Yay.

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good on you @Mazarita 🙂

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haha take care @Sophia1

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@Mazarita Yay! Not only do you look pretty but you smell pretty too 🙂

I hope you have a nice time with your friend this afternoon. The weather is perfect for a visit 🙂 Btw did you end up dying your hair again?

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Cheers, @MDT

@Bunniekins, haven't got around to re-dying my hair yet. Hoping to do it soon!

Off to my friend's place now. Have a good one everyone.

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