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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hello Everyone 🙂

Good luck today @eth

Thanks for all the suggestions 🙂 The one I was really interested in, you can't take dogs & I don't go anywhere without them. But I've got another spot in mind & even if that's as far as I get, I haven't even been able to think about it for 6 months or so - so it's a start.

My life is particularly 'quiet' these days & considering how 'quiet' it's been for the past decade or so, I think I'm getting bored 'shirtless' of my restricted little routine.

Love to all

@Mazarita @outlander @Bunniekins @CheerBear @Faith-and-Hope @Sophia1 @Shaz51

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Found it. Thank goodness for auto save.

I do have plans today @CheerBear. Yesterday I was dreading said plans and thought I’d cancel. Now I’ve cleared that swamp a bit I’m going to play with my friend who is on holidays for lunch and shopping. She is bright and cheery and totally nuts so my mood may be ok for the rest of the day. We haven’t done this for a long time. We have a few scheduled catch ups these holidays including maybe a mini break for a night or two. Will have to see about that one though. I have a feeling one of those buses might come back. That a rave then 😳

have you got got plans for today?

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Hello @Teej & @Appleblossom

It's good to 'see' you this morning 🙂

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I got bounced out for forum maintenance too then @Teej :face_with_rolling_eyes: But email notifications have come through pretty quickly so far this morning which is a win for me. I am thinking they might be coming through quicker when I am logged in and here 🤔

Hugs and love @Exoplanet for being bored 'shirtless'. I hope you enjoy pondering your getaway and find somewhere that's suitable for you and the furry friends.

Morning to @Faith-and-Hope who I see up and here also 😊

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Hi @Exoplanet i hope you find a lovely spot away. I hope to find my big girl pants again one day and take dog and I camping. I’ve only ever done it once and that was when I ran away 😳. It’s a bit cold at the moment here but it’s always catch 22. Warmer weather brings out the snakes. I think it’s a great idea so you don’t become bored shirtless (I did chuckle at that😊)

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Morning everyone 👋☕️☕️☕️💕

@Mazarita I am being the creative insomniac at the moment.... trying to get my ideas out into the visual diary all at once, and firing on all cylinders .... lol .... will try to power-nap after uni today.😜

All the best @eth. Will be thinking of you 🌷

Hi @frog ... went looking for somewhere to post a “hello and thinking about you” last night, in time to face-plant .... so it’s a few hours later, but “hello and thinking about you” .... 🐸💕

Great to see you at this time of day and in a better frame of mind @Teej 💜💐

@The-red-centaur - dropped a reply to you on the other thread .... hang in there buddy .... 🤜🤛 (fist bump)

@CheerBear 🤗💕

Have to get up and off .... catch y’all later .....

@Sophia1

@Bunniekins

@Exoplanet

@outlander

@Shaz51

..... anyone else up and here .....

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Cross posting this morning @Teej! Playing with a bright cheery totally nuts friend sounds so good (they're some of my favourite kinds of people 😁). Its great that your mood has improved in time for that today. I wonder whether knowing you had it on today helped (chicken/egg question sometimes). I hope the bus hits stay away for a little while so you can enjoy your friend. Go you with not canceling - that's so awesome especially given how ugh things have felt for you!

No plans today for me really. The little crew and I will do something though. Maybe a walk/ride. I have mountains of washing and clothes to pack away from us all being away. Trying to go slowly and gently with it (with everything) and enjoy being home and with them as much as I can.

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Bored 'shirtless' makes you smile @Teej, big girl pants make me smile 😄 It's cool here too, I put the fire on last night & even threw a few sticks on this morning 'cause I woke up a bit early. It's better for me to wake a little later in Winter, otherwise I have to use the lights, which just drains my already drained batteries from the night before, a bit more + it's usually when it's the coolest.

I like camping in Winter because there tends to be less people 😉 But it's really Summer when I want to get away, even if the spot I'm going to is hot, it might take my mind off the heat a little?

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I actually don’t think it was having something on @CheerBear. I have cancelled on her lots before including a couple of mini breaks this year and last year. There are some times when I just have to close the world out and bunker down.

im so glad you are having a chill time today. Lf are probably loving it.

@Faith-and-Hope You go girl. It sounds awesome. I love your passion for this. 💜🤗

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Good Morning Mazy @Mazarita

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