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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@CheerBear, I think I have seen Labarynth at some time but can't quite remember it. Glad it's a hit, in any case. 🙂

We are about to have dinner now: steak and mashed purple potatoes. Yes, you heard right! The mash ends up looking mauve! C gets them fromm the market. He also bought purple carrots today too!

Well, on that colourful note, I adjourn to eat. 😄

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yes @Appleblossom ,He probably feels overwhelmed by a lot of family stuff going on.-- very true xx

well we are fed and going for a shower , yes mr shaz can not handle too much so tomorrow I think needs to be a rest day xx

@Mazarita, @CheerBear, @Teej, @eth xx

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I think I remember hearing about these potatoes a while ago @Mazarita! Cool - anything purple has to be pretty great!

Hope you enjoy your dinner and the evening ahead ☺

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We just finished a 5 day intensive course which started across town - 8.45 to 5.45. I suggested it, he researched it, liked it and paid for it before we even scheduled it in our diaries, so I was totally focussed on getting through smoothly. It was also very challenging for him as they were all professional and mostly working. There were some difficult moments but considering all the great moments and wonderful warmth. I was pleased as punch.

Last year some bossy old lady told me my son would always be "a not follow through" type. Now he knows he can follow through. I have just heard she is returning to her own country. Not sorry - glad she is going. My family and I have supported so many new migrants over the years, but this one had no respect for us or Australia but took advantage of our welcome and social services. She had been here for 20 years and could not let go of her superior New England opinions. She possibly made things a lot worse for my son by her rigid demanding dogmatic "friendship"(??) style over the last 5 years.

SO got that out my system. Still a lot of work to do re his situation, but he toughed it out, got accreditation, pulled his weight with food and money, and getting up at crack of dawn, I am proud.

This weekend we are taking it easy and I am not going outside!

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Awesome news for you and your son, @Appleblossom. I remember you talking about that woman a number of times before. She always seemed difficult, so I'm relieved she has naturally exited you and your son's life.

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Hello Everybody,

I went through a bit of my camp gear yesterday. I had a look at the long term weather report on the BOM site yesterday also & guess what, they are predicting the whole eastern side of Australia to have %80 or more chance of higher then average tempertures . . . again {I wonder when they'll just raise the average temperture?}, even Tasmania. But I still think I want to go down & out 😉 Sounds a bit weird a person stating they want 'down & out' 🙂 but I'm talking about direction; down the country from my location & out towards the coastline. That'd put me around northern NSW, anyone know of any good spots; it doesn't have to be at the beach {reckon that'd be too popular}, just less than 5 hours inland. I'm interested in mountains, the higher altitude should make it cooler, at a guess. From what I saw on the websites map, Western Australias coastline would be the place to be, but I'm honest enough with myself to know I can't go that far. I've read in the news that over 50 people have passed away from the heat wave in Quebec & that's Canada, which I've always imagined was a cooler country!

Talking about cooler, I actually had to pull the 2nd blanket up last night . . . & I lit the fire before I went to bed 🙂 It's not freezing or anything, but it's nice to be cool again 😄

Love to all

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Good morning, @Exoplanet

The places in Northern NSW that I like the best are Murwillumbah, the little back roads that go around Nimbin, Bangalow, Kyogle and, for beach, Hastings Point beach (special memories of amazing whale sightings there). It's the time of year for whale sightings too. Watch for the spume. You can see it even when they are at a distance out at sea, near the horizon. There are also national parks and waterfalls around the Nimbin area. Northern NSW is one of the most gorgeous places I've ever been. The beach at Hastings Point is usually fairly deserted, especially in winter. Not sure how far inland any of these places would be for you. But I'm guessing they might be less than five hours away.

Hi everyone, @eth, @Appleblossom, @CheerBear, @Shaz51, @Teej, @MDT, @outlander, @Bunniekins and anyone else visiting today, may it be a blessed Sunday for all.

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Morning @Mazarita 👋💕

Lovely to catch you in a quiet moment .....

I can really relate to this article. I have been hesitant to say it, but when we were all debating the do-or-don’t-do staying up all night with creative pursuits, this was what was foremost in my mind. The old term “manic depressive” was closely associated with artists as I was growing up, and addictions too .... which was probably also why artists were also often associated with the “starving artist” image, or being “on another planet”.

The addictive nature of creativity has come up in our lectures already, along with the question of, “Is it a good or bad thing ?”

If you think of it as amoral - neither good nor bad - then perhaps it’s eadier to accept some things that are branded disordered as only disordered if they prevent us functioning ..... so perhaps “high functioning” anything is actually normal within a historical context .... ?

I think The Greatest Shownan movie captures the essence of that concept using physical “abnormalities” as the example.

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Good morning @Mazarita @Appleblossom @CheerBear@Shaz51 @Exoplanet @outlander @Bunniekins @Teej and anyone else passing by today.

@Mazarita hope I've caught you live this morning and that it's a nice one for you.

Re northern NSW - I lived up there for a few years. My all-time favourite place is Minyon Falls, near Rosebank. I lived not far from the base of the falls in an outdoor camp on and off for 2 years. Usually had somewhere on the coast to use too, but home was the valley (off the end of Fox Rd). Brunswick Heads is beautiful too.

We've had whale sightings here lately - saw 7 on Thurs when out with my sw. Beautiful beasts breeching between us and the horizon.

Will go and catch up on the last few pages now.

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