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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hi @CheerBear, got lost in time drafting that last post and missed your previous post.

Great to see you as always. Thanks for your words.

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No need for sorry @Teej - I get it. I haven't been around to chat much for a while (like pretty much forever in forum time 😉). Caught that you've had some tough times though and have sent you lots of ❤ from afar. I was thinking the same thing with the cold and the dog walk as @Mazarita. It's a bitter cold day and evening here and I'm thinking it's probably not exactly tropical weather where you are.

Big hugs for you.

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hello @Mazarita, @Teej, @CheerBear, @eth, @Bunniekins

it is raining up here again

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Hi @Shaz51, you have had so much rain! Not even the wet season!

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Thanks @Mazarita ☺ It's great to be here again. It might take a bit of time for me to get back into things here but it's nice to catch up even in little bursts. Glad you had a good day today.

Heya @Shaz51. Rain isn't far off where I am, though it's going to feel more like ice I think! Hope you and Mr Shaz have been OK 💗

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ha ha yes , just wait for the wet season @Mazarita, I think i am growing duck`s feet by now

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you have school holidays now @CheerBear ??

got a lot of things happening at the moment , one step at a time here

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'Duck's feet', @Shaz51

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We have @Shaz51. They've been off for a week but I was away for it so we'll try to do some fun stuff this week together. It's a bit trickier to get put and about with the weather at this time of the year though and they've been fighting colds so its going to depend on how they are feeling. Pjs and movies this afternoon and evening ☺

You seem to juggle quite a bit with all of yours and Mr Shaz's stuff too. One step at a time sounds like a good way to go with it all ❤

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ha ha yep @Mazarita

how has your saturday been xx

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