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Son2

BunniekinsSenior Contributor05 Sept 2019, 7:23 pm AEST

Son2

Hi everyone something happened last night with son2. It has been coming for awhile and no one is surprised least of all me as I have been makint excuses for months now .... one of his voices threatened me in a very violent way. Luckily he could talk the voice down and my daughter was here but nonetheless it has made me realise that son2 will have to go to a group home in the near future.

He is too big for me to handle when he gets out of control angry and the voices are at him. It just makes me sad that I will never be able to fix him. He will always have these nasty voices at him regardless of medications. He will never be totally free and will always be paranoid and thinking his family are out to get him.

It is so unfair. I could kid myself when he was younger that I could fix his problems. But it is impossible. I can't make it better and being a mum you are meant to be able to fix things for your children and I cannot. I feel a total failure...

It just hurts so much. Thinking bad thoughts tonight. Bad thoughts are surrounding me. Life shouldnt hold so much pain.

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Gazza75Senior Contributor11 Sept 2019, 2:39 pm AEST

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No problem @Bunniekins , hope you remember to take care of yourself to.

Try and keep up your exercise and good eating. 🙂

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor11 Sept 2019, 6:32 pm AEST

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@Gazza75 went for a walk today with support worker and did a super healthy meal :). Even did some gardening with her finishing off with a rl hug!:) felt good too. Hope you are keeping well. You never complain and are always there for others. If you ever need a friendly ear just ask the pea :)x

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor11 Sept 2019, 7:12 pm AEST

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@outlander @Gazza75 @Meowmy @Shaz51 @Molliex @Eden1919 @Former-Member and all an opportunity came up tonight for me to suss out whether my son2 would be interested.in shared housing with mates and it was a definite no. I explained that there will come a time when I would be to old or sick to look after him and that we would find the perfect house for him.

He listened nervously and had to be consoled that it would happen a long time away in the future. So all in all I cannot see that he will be moving any time soon. Which leaves me in a dilema of all these people around me saying he should move out because he is a danger to me..... pea

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outlanderSenior Contributor11 Sept 2019, 7:19 pm AEST

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hi @Bunniekins that is really tough and im sure you would be having so many thoughts and emotions coming up now.
Is there a chance he would accept a night a week then increase to 2 a week and so on as a way to see how he goes and adjusts?

I really cant imagine how difficult this would be for you. sending my love

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MeowmySenior Contributor11 Sept 2019, 7:19 pm AEST

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@Bunniekins know you love him so much. Always want to give him love and happiness. And he is very attached to you. Is he better and can control his violent voice on new meds? May be take some time to make decision. It is important for him as well to gradually gain some independence .Know it's hard for you. But probably the best for everyone.

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MolliexSenior Contributor11 Sept 2019, 7:29 pm AEST

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It's such a tough situation @Bunniekins. Unfortunately it's not just about what he wants, it's also about your health and safety and what's best for him. Sending love💕💕💕🌻🌻🌻

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor11 Sept 2019, 7:40 pm AEST

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@outlander @Meowmy @Molliex Thank you all for getting back to me so quick. Yes maybe small visits in the future would be a good way to test the waters. He is an angel tonight it is always like nothing has ever happened. Definitely will watch to see if new meds will help. Taking him to another specialist on Friday as his pdoc is away (his pdoc has arranged this). They will be keeping a close eye on things while pdoc is away.

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Gazza75Senior Contributor11 Sept 2019, 7:41 pm AEST

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@Bunniekins 💜💜💜❤️❤️🌼🌼🌼🌼☕

Hope you can get some rest and not worry to much. Its such a tough situation. What does your ex suggest if you don't mind me asking. You do not need to answer that if it's distressing, just think he'd have a good handle on all of it.

I think everyones suggestions are thoughtful and worth thinking about when you can.

Wish pea could take a holiday,. Clear. Mind and have a chance to think without juggling life and pressures.

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outlanderSenior Contributor11 Sept 2019, 8:01 pm AEST

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I really do hope something works out well @Bunniekins a good option for you all would be ideal even if its something very small to start with.

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OwlunarSenior Contributor11 Sept 2019, 8:22 pm AEST

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Geez @Bunniekins

I know how tough it is when a son has MI - and you don't know what is going to happen next - and yes - you feel afraid

Just letting you know you are not alone - I did read this the other day - and I couldn't post and I just found your first post

Thinking of you - this is really hard stuff

But - please don't hurt yourself -

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