So it's happened again! 😭

ughgh @Serenity1 , this seems like an impossible situation and mess. I don't understand why this teacher would do this and discriminate against you. I hope you feel a little better after talking to someone on a helpline.

I would consider talking to or emailing the principal about this teachers behaviour. It's not fair on you or your daughter. If anything they should be more supportive of you rather than doing the opposite and isolating you. I'd be so mad if I were you.

I encourage you to keep trying and not get to down about all this.

Sending you some love and energy your way.

@Serenity1 sorry you have to go through all of this. something i hate to say but have you heard of the term 'vexatious litigant'? ( a person who persistantly seeks legal action without sufficent grounds) now i am NOT saying you are one but it seems to me and granted i am not there so cant say anything for sure, but perhaps the school is considering you to be someone like that. again you may have perfectly good reasons to have concerns BUT the school may be viewing this like a "boy who cried wolf" situation where they think you are making a fuss for what ever reason. now we all know playground bullying is very hard to prove/disprove so when a parent is concerned and continues to bring up and issue with the school, without any "proof" (in terms of what the school deems proof) then they may stop listening to that parent. now i dont mean to say you shouldnt stick up for your child but i would suggest you pick your battles very carefully so that it doesnt look like you are crying wolf. you may not be and you could be completely right but you have to make sure that whenever you do pursue these issues you have an attack plan so that you come off as a perfectly credible source. I would suggest making notes of all the incidents and keeping track of them like date and time is happened and a few details and then you can do 2 things.

1. have a good idea of how often it is happening and how and perhaps why

2. have a record to keep track of time so you can know that the school has had enough time to deal with the issue.

once you have these things and you have collected them over a period of a few months then perhaps try and sort out how to approach the school. of course if your child is not safe then by all mean do what you need to but (and all of this is just a suggestion and my own opinion) it seems like perhaps you need to sit back and observe for a bit so that when you go in to ask for the school to help you know exactly what the issues are and what you need from the school so that they get one strong and clear message.

bullying is also very hard for a school to deal with they can only do so much and while in this case i do agree the teacher was being unreasonable but you never know what kind of home the other kid who has been causing the issues is from. they could come from a bad home and be being taught the wrong ways to behave which if it is coming from home would be hard for the school to correct quickly as they only have the kids for 6 hours and have to manage a whole class. the other thing you could do is if you do know the other childs parents or if the school was willing to sit and talk with the parents and the teachers together to try and come up with a solution but again i would do this after gathering evidence.

sorry this was so long and sorry you have having such a hard time finding the right environment for you and your child.

No I haven't heard that term before- but it is highly likely that that is how they see me-( although IV never got legal advice- IV been advised too tho)-

i have had an advocate helping me in dealing with the current school every step of the way- she has helped me with every email IV sent proof reading it for me, taking out the emotion & helping me word it correctly.

I have also followed the correct protocol every step of the way. I have been overly cautious about how I have handled the situation because of the way I was treated at the last school. ( where I didn't have the advocates help- so can acknowledge that my emotional responses didn't help the situation- but being ignored by the principal & told my daughter was "making it up for attention " was only adding fuel to the fire of my anxiety & making the situation so much worse as it was not being resolved only escalating)-

i have ignored several incidents in fear of bringing it up incase I was treated like this again.

There have been things written in the minutes of my meeting w teacher that were completely incorrect- & that I did not say- such as- teacher wrote: " mother agrees incident is not bullying " which I did not EVER say- referring to when my daughter was physically hurt-I held off & did not correct this wrong statement for fear of being treated like this.

I have taken every Step necessary to handle this situation in the correct manor & held my tongue on many occasions when I SHOULD have spoken up.

This is why I am so frustrated because no matter what I do I am not being treated accordingly to my actions.

I'm sure you are probably right. They have a preconceived idea about me from the previous school. Where the Principal was very malicious when I stated I MIGHT make a complaint against him & he was not in a permanent position but waiting to hear if he was getting the job- so he could not have that happen. I believe the two principals have spoken-( they may not have- just a feeling)-

They are not handling the situation correctly- my child came home & told me she was physically hurt by another student- this has absolutely nothing to do with the previous bullying or school- different school different child, I wasn't even there -& they are lumping it all into one- it is irrelevant what happened at the previous school- they are not addressing the situation presenting now.

& even if that is how they think of me- which is probably correct- I have done nothing to cause them to think that way about me except advocate for my child- it is unfortunate she was hurt by another child but am I supposed to ignore that?

regardless of how they think of me they should not treat me the way I was treated this morning- it is unprofessional & cruel & has no impact other than distressing my daughter & myself. @Eden1919

@Serenity1 yes i agree the way they have handled it is not right. they should take every concern from parents seriously and should at the very least look into it. it is very hard because schools are always trying to keep up apperances because their financials depend on it but sometimes that comes at a cost to the student. I remember one boy who moved to my high school moved because he was getting bullied and was told by the principal of his old school that if he didnt want to be being bullied then he should have not made himself an easy target. things like this are not ok but they do happen and when they do i always find it best to act with caution which i am sure you have already been doing. i am not sure what kind of school your daughter goes to and of course another move might not be possible but if it did get to that point and if i were you I would do a serious background check on the schools and make sure you went to one with strong bullying policies. it also depends on the state you live in and what their policies around school enrolments are. but if the school is not recieving a lot of funding then it is likely that they wont want to look to have problems as well as having a lot of other issues to contend with. but even still it is up to the staff to create a safe and engaging environment for all the students, teachers lately though are not recieving as much training as they used to and a lot quit in the first year which adds to the burden of an already struggling system. I am not sure what the solution to your problems is but if it were me I would take some time and have a big think about what to do next, schools are in a sense like a bureaucracy, it is never one persons fault and there is always a scramble to find out where in the line the cog came loose. but as a result it is always difficult to find someone to take responsiblity and without that it is hard to make changes.