Getting started with DBT

Hi, I am new here and new to the idea that I may have BPD. I have done a variety of treatments for depression and anxiety over the years without much help. I’ve got some clear bits a ASD (my dad is a pretty full on Aspie), a lot of childhood trauma. The most helpful thing I’ve done so far is ACT training. This has provided a lot of framework around feelings that I never had before.

But I’m not right and my wife thinks maybe I have BPD, or at least partially. I don’t have much in the way of damaging behavior like major addictions or suicidial ideation, and I’m mostly ok in the wider world, but in the area of intimate relationships there is an lot of unnecessary and unexpected chaos, heartache, etc.

I’ve read and watched videos on DBT and it really appeals to me as a treatment. But when I asked about it at the place I do ACT training the response was “No, that program’s not for you.” I think this means they are using it to transition in-patients back into the world and they don’t want to mix people with more chronic, lower intensity issues in with folks in crisis (I may be wrong).

Regardless, I want to get started with DBT. I’m in Melbourne. Any suggestions? Thanks for your time.