Hot Chocolate Anyone ?

my birthday twin @Faith-and-Hope, what day is your`s xx

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well we are home again , 1) the lawns are not growing 2) it is raining now 3) mr shaz did not take any meds yesterday or today

Hi @Former-Member. I'm okay or trying to be. I was hanging out the washing this morning thinking of a conversation I had with my Mum about how much better the Hills Hoist was than the washing lines that attach to a wall and starting sobbing 😥

Oh @soul, I understand, the smallest memories become huge and present and good and sad all rolled up together. The tears came up for me every time for 2yrs, still do (with less intensity now). There's no escaping it. I call them waves, grief waves, pushing it down just makes the next wave bigger. We have to face it in the moment - wrap ourselves in a hug - and wait for it to pass. I light a candle each time, have a cry, sometimes talk to them, imagine what they'd say, pray. Its exhausting, so make sure you be kind to yourself, self care, rest breaks, eat ya vegies, meet up with friends. This first 6months will be the hardest. Hang in there Soul, we've gotcha 💜

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Some hot chocolate would be so nice. I'm not very good at treating myself with nice things (I have to work at it).

I don't think I've had hot chocolate in a year or more...

I keep trying to think of nice ways of rewarding myself for 1) de-cluttering the house (& throwing stuff out).

2) getting a comfy chair that doesn't hurt my back (instead of the broken ones).

3) Being assertive with my work managers, & asking to drop a day's work - to accommodate essential appointments that were being frequently cancelled by work.

So far I've not come up with any self-care type of reward that makes it all seem worthwhile.

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