Hot Chocolate Anyone ?

Passive aggressive is one thing.. for me covert aggressive is the worst of them. But that is just my opinion of course @Faith-and-Hope and someone who does it all and throw in pathological lying and lack of conscience, not to mention total lack of empathy into the mix. with extreme narcissism.... well that's then a whole other entity again. 😞

Ooops but let me just add something for clarification purposes. One thing that is an absolute... all forms of it are so destructive, disorientating and frustrating and definitely insidious.

I don't understand why people have to be like that, but I do understand that some are.

@Faith-and-Hope This is the definition of covert aggressors from Dr Simon, he is my go to on manipulators because he is the one (that I know of) who has specialised in the study of manipulators and their modus operandi for the longest.

"Manipulators are covert-aggressors. They fight in ways that make it difficult to clearly see their aggression. They’re out to win, dominate, and control, to be sure. But they don’t want to be seen that way. So they cloak their aggression. If you knew what they were really up to, they’d run a higher risk of being resisted. And if you knew what they were really like, you’d be more wary of them. That’s why they hide their true nature and true intentions. Manipulators are the proverbial wolves in sheep’s clothing.

Covert aggressors know that if they can convince you they’re doing anything but fighting, they’re more likely to win. And they count on the conscientiousness of their victims. They prey on those with a sound conscience. They know, for example, that folks with a big conscience are sensitive to guilt and shame. So, if they can make you feel guilty or ashamed, they’ll hold sway."

@Former-Member aren't macarons the french originals? I could be wrong but that was my understanding. Not sure what the difference is so I'll take your obviously far more informed advice on that one.

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@Dichotomy

Count me in, I have just poured a cup of chamomile tea. Can't think of anything worse actually but hoping it may help with some sleep.

Would share some of the infamous timtams but none left unfortunately 😁