Hot Chocolate Anyone ?

I have to get mum to her psych appt tomorrow but I don't like my chances ... when she has been in a deep depression I have been quite stern with her and she listens. I don't like my chances for tomorrow - she is already talking along the lines of not going ... any suggestions on how others have handled this in the past? Thanks x

That’s the principle of this sort of fasting @Bella1978 ..... it’s not going without food ..... it’s bringing it back to basics. It’s Vegan plus shellfish for the most part, after graduated beginning weeks .... so a fish day popping up is like .... wooooow ! I can have fish today ! 🎉

I know she is not a small child @Bella1978 .... but the principle of “a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down” works with adults, and even ourselves too.

I team going to appointments with a lunch or morning / afternoon tea out somewhere, for instance .... or you could take her to buy some flowers for a vase afterwards ..... operative concept is “afterwards”.

Thanks @Faith-and-Hope ... I will definitely try the gentle approach and see how it goes. And yes, whenever we go to a doctor's appt we go out for a cuppa or lunch afterwards which we both enjoy. At the moment she don't want to do anything though, and I'm not having much luck with her listening to me either! I just want her to get to the psych appt. It could be something as simple as changing/increasing medication. But she doesn't see that she isn't well at the moment which is the most frustrating part! Grrrr

This afternoon I told my mum that I know I am frustrating her but I'm not giving up on her. I'm going to keep persevering until she gets better. She has lapses every now and then but when she has been good, she's good. Anyway, I told her that she can't see that I am trying to help her atm but in time she will. I'm trying to keep it together in front of her. There is a possibility that she thinks she will end up back in hospital tomorrow but I don't think she needs to be, but she does need help.

Can you “jolly” her along a bit @Bella1978 ?

Like .... “Now Mum, you’re not going to give me any trouble about this, are you ? Come on, I have come all this way to pick you up ..... we are going !! Start thinking about what you might like to do afterwards. Shall we grab an ice cream on the way home ?”

That also gives her the clear understanding that you don’t anticipate her staying in hospital.

“But she doesn't see that she isn't well at the moment which is the most frustrating part! Grrrr”

Ooooh ..... hearing you loud. and. clear. on this score .....