Need a little help tonight

Oh dear @Razzle that is so frustrating and upsetting for you I think you did the right thing in giving her an ultimatum here - it may seem harsh but she also needs to know you are not going to take that type of behaviour ongoing - you need to be able to look after yourself in order to care for her also and if it is a constant struggle to get her to eat then it is going to wear you down.

I love the idea of the 'contract' on the fridge - you can simply point to that next time she refuses to eat and hopefully she will know what your reaction will be.

How is your butt feeling today?

@Zoe7 Yes, I think I’ll be referring to that contract quite a bit.

As for my butt - there will be NO bike riding for the next day or 2 😫😫🤣

How did you get on today, were you able to get a nap in??

LOL your poor butt @Razzle

I slept most of the morning and a little in the afternoon. Wide awake now but have done a little of the paper work and organising that I needed to do tonight so that is a bonus. Still got the marking and planning for the upcoming week to do so will probably begin that tonight and then finish it tomorrow.

Watching footy now and doing some more washing. Haven't eaten tonight but did not feel like it earlier (stomach a little sore and it never works out well for me when I eat then - have IBS so occasionally I can't eat or I end up in excruciating pain).

Do you have any plans for tomorrow?

@Zoe7 Good work, on sleep and work 👍👍

I dont know much about IBS but have a friend that has Crohn’s disease. She had to have a great chunk of bowel removed when she was younger because she had a lot of scarring. She ends up in hospital sometimes when she’s eaten something that upsets it - it’s terrible for her .

Only plan for tomorrow is to finish cleaning out a wardrobe that I started on today. I’ll try and get a big walk in seeings as I won’t be riding the bike 😆

Lol @Zoe7 yes I look like I have a LOADED nappy on 🤣🤣. It’s not an attractive look 🤣🤣

Oh wow, I didn’t realise the pain could get bad enough to pass out, that would be terrible.

My mum used to do a lot of patchwork quilts, so this cupboard is in the spare room and it is full of material and other craft stuff - both the cupboard and the room. There is also some clothes that are about 3 sizes too big. She used to be a large woman but has lost a lot of weight over the last few years and she’ll never wear them again. I bagged it all up and dropped it into a Salvo’s collection bin.

Hopefully I can have it all done tomorrow, the job has been overwhelming for her, so she just shuts the door on it and it has become a bit of a cluttered junk room. She stays in the lounge room and watches tv while I do it, thank goodness, because there has been a bit of stuff I’ve just tossed. If she was watching me she’d try and keep it. Stuff like old pillows and cushions, wrapping paper she’s kept that will never get used again. It will be good to have it all done - the whole room has been a tripping hazard so it will be good to have everything off the floor.

My whole house looks a bit like that room @Razzle I have all my school stuff stored in the spare room, hallway and bedroom - there is soooo much of it but as I dont have a class of my own ongoing then it needs to be stored at my place. A lot of it is art and craft things, games and resources for different subjects. I had a bit of a clean out when I had to move it from my previous school but it didn't reduce it much at all.

I would have a lot in my cupboads that I could get rid of too - but mostly because I have put weight on and things do not fit anymore. I put on a lot of weight with one of me previous meds and although I have lost around half of that since there is still a way to go. I'm not over concerned about it though - it is the least of my worries - being health and functioning is at the top of my list.

I might head off for a while Hon - get a few more things done and clean up a little more. It has been so lovely chatting to you tonight - as always. Goodluck with all your sorting out tomorrow. I look forward to an update how it all goes. Hope you get a nice walk in too and find some small moments in your day to enjoy. Will catch you tomorrow Hon

Hey @Razzle Been a while since we caught up Hon - how are you travelling? How is your Mum?

Hi @Zoe7 Things have been going pretty well here. Since my big threat to leave a bit over a week ago mum has not made an issue when it comes to food. It’s actually been a fun, happy, full of laughs week. I think we’re both enjoying each other’s company which is a great relief.

Mum still doesn’t want to get out much, don’t blame her as it’s been FREEZING this last week, you don’t have to drive too far to see snow, so I’m pretty happy to stay indoors too.

How have you been going this last week? Has school been keeping you busy ?

I am so pleased for you @Razzle That is such a big turnaround and must be such a relief.

I am feeling really overwhelmed with everything tonight so instead of trying to do anymore I am heading to bed. I will try to get to work early to get some more done but need to leave it for tonight. I think tiredness is a contributing factor - and a difficult day. Tomorrow is a new day though.

@Zoe7 I’m sorry to hear you are feeling overwhelmed - it’s not a great feeling, it wasn’t that long ago when I was in your shoes. Some sleep will make the world of difference, I hope you get some restful sleep tonight. Yes, tomorrow is a new day and I hope it’s a better one for you ❤️❤️