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Struggling

M221067Casual Contributor04 July 2019, 1:18 am AEST

Struggling

It’s 3 weeks now since my daughter tried to end her life. She moved back home as she was 2 hours away with almost no support network.

I’ve been along with her to an initial mental health assessment and she sees a psych and a counsellor next week. She appears to be coping ok and at times she appears almost happy. Tonight she’s had a bit of a set back, reality has set in I think and I bore the brunt of her frustration (verbally). I understand she’s suffering and I’d do anything in my power to take that suffering away but I can’t and I don’t deserve to be spoken to like I’m something she stepped in on the side walk. I don’t know how to do this carer role and if I’m honest I am so resentful that now, when I should finally be able to enjoy life a little, I feel hostage to this situation. I cannot foresee a time when life will ever be ‘normal’ again. And yes I feel very guilty for feeling that way.

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Drifting13Casual Contributor09 July 2019, 7:47 am AEST

Re: Struggling

Hi Darcy

I have just found this site and joined the forum. "Struggling" described what I'm feeling right now about my own adult daughter who is living with me and actually I have no support network at all in the town where I am currently living. She has been mentally unwell for quite some time and I have battled to understand it all. The way I'm being treated is the worst, when I am doing everything I can to help and support, but am also only human! I have kept this hidden (to protect her) from all family and what little friends I have left (actually only an acqaintance or two!). Can you perhaps also tag me in the thread you mentioned please? Thanks so much!

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Drifting13Casual Contributor09 July 2019, 8:07 am AEST

Re: Struggling

So sorry to hear about what you've gone through. I'm struggling too. I don't understand most of this but trying to educate myself. Being treated badly is the worst, especially when you are basically just existing to be there in support of your loved one. I try hard not to react and succeed often but sometimes I can't help myself from occasionally raising my voice (I have feelings too!). Then I am left feeling guilty again and apologising (something that only ever goes in one direction). I hope things are going better for you. I also hope to get some info and support through this group which I just discovered.

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Ali11Senior Contributor11 July 2019, 7:52 pm AEST

Re: Struggling

Hi @Drifting13,

Welcome to the forum! Sorry to hear you are struggling too – looking after a loved one can be challenging and bring up many feelings of guilt and frustration, and we understand how tough it is. Others have said reaching out here for information and support is invaluable for them. You might like to start by introducing yourself in the welcome thread here. Look forward to reading more of your story.

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