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not good enough

gymgirlCasual Contributor

not good enough

In less than 2 months after our seperation my ex has moved on with someone else. It has left me feeling completely heartbroken. While we were together I never felt like I was meeting his standards but for him to move on so quickly it makes me feel as though he didnt care about me at all. I get hurt rather easily when it comes to relationships and it takes me a long time to get over a seperation. I am constantly thinking about the two of them and it is starting to have an impact on my everyday living. I have been trying to block out the thoughts of them and think positively but nothing seems to be working. Has anybody else felt this way?

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Ali11Senior Contributor

Re: not good enough

That sounds like you have a good friend @SnowWhite, sometimes we need that reminder to snap us out of our doldrums. Our time is valuable, and we use it best by enjoying ourselves. It's easy to forget we had a life before our (ex)partners, and it can be a real journey to find ourselves again while dealing with them moving on. How are you going @gymgirl? Have you got much planned this weekend?

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gymgirlCasual Contributor

Re: not good enough

Thank you @SnowWhite. Your reply has spoke volums to me. I must admit I am slowly getting better but still have moments that hurt. I feel as though I need answers to some questions that I have, which I know I am never going to get, and that seems to be my hurdle with moving forward at the moment. I am not sure how long ago your seperation was, but, I am sorry to hear about the struggle you went through. xoxo

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gymgirlCasual Contributor

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Hi @Ali11 . @SnowWhite response was amazing! This whole experience has been just what I need. Everyone has been so amazing. I am still struggling at times, and, as I said to @SnowWhite I think I need answers to questions I know I am never going to get, which is my struggle with moving forward at the moment. Before I met this guy I was in the best time of my life. I was happy and confident. I hope that one day in the near future I will be there again. I dont have alot planned for this weekend which gives me way to much time to think. But will try and keep busy.

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Ali11Senior Contributor

Re: not good enough

You'll get there again @gymgirl, we hope you find something fun to do this weekend - are you a Stranger Things fan? We've heard good things about the new season!

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SnowWhiteContributor

Re: not good enough

I to looked for answers there has to be one I thought and I tortured myself looking for something that wasn't there and sometimes it has no answer. When you can accept that it just happened things move on from there mind you now and then i think back and wonder why we have been over now a long long time and i don't look back with hate but as a learning experience it taught me some tough lessons but you know what I have strength I never knew I had and I am proud of me cause i made it and you can as well. much love xxx

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gymgirlCasual Contributor

Re: not good enough

I must be living under a rock because I havn't heard of Stranger Things... sorry. What is it about?

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