Topic Tuesday // What online peer support looks like // Tues 16th July, 7pm-9pm AEST

@Former-Member 'empathy' has been my favourite word since I first learned its meaning, some 40 years ago! To me it's the ability to 'project oneself fully into another's experience' and thus share their feelings and truly sit with them in an equal way - share a fellowship with them, as opposed to 'sympathy' which is somehow looking from outside the situation with pity and commiseration.

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Agreed, re the Support button @Adge , especially if I have no real experience in what the person who posted is struggling with. The Support button is a quiet way to add in an “I hear you” even if you don’t know what to say.

I think a lot of people within our society rush forward with opinions, preconceived ideas, what they believe are ready solutions, or judgements and “you should’s“. I think a lot of the powerfulness In Brene Brown’s research and support materials is in getting to the core of emotional health, and what is commonly being identified as “emotional intelligence”. For whatever (many) reasons, this sort of understanding and education has been left behind in our society, but there is no time like the present to start learning.

Because I don't need it, and as I mentioned earlier in the thread, I don't appreciate being pushed into connections or attachments, it takes away from my nature and to me it is an expectation/condition thrown on top of me by society and others as opposed to something I choose of my own volition.

To me, it also subtracts from my experience as an individual to have someone tell me they understand. I don't like it, it comes across as fake and phoney and I don't appreciate emotionality being added to my contributions unless I add them.

Oh no, we're all out of time @Former-Member

I bet it's time to wrap it all up, & say goodbye...

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This is an awesome link @eth ! Thank you.

Totally incorporates a lot of the notions we touched on earlier doesnt it? @CheerBear Feeling connected and understood is one of the key outcomes of empathy!

You're right @Adge it is wrap up time, thanks for the heads up hehe 🙂

Hearing you @Former-Member and thank you for sharing. It is important to feel there's congruence when engaging with others, so I can understand your frustrations around the "fakeness"

Alright everyone we are out of time this evening 🙂 But as mentioned at the start of the thread we will be doing a part two of this topic toward end of year So keep an eye out!

Thank you all for contributing it's been really awesome and I know for me especially I have taken away a lot to mull over.

We're going to leave this thread open until tomorow morning for you all to debrief in Thanks all, goodnight!

Thanks goodness it's only 7pm at my end (here).

If it was 9pm here, I would be too tired & unable to participate (that's way too late at night for me).

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