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I’ve been married to my wife for almost 10 years. She is undiagnosed but I believe she suffers from bouts of extreme anxiety. She has done what I would refer to as the counseling circuit and we have had two beautiful children. About 5 years ago the anxiety became so bad that she falsely accused me of sexually abusing our son and I have found it very difficult to get past that. After that episode of extreme anxiety came a period of intermittent flare ups but none to that extent until a couple of weeks ago. Her anxiety levels rose again but this time there were more false allegations of physical abuse. Our daughter still sleeping in our bed woke up crying due to pain in her leg. My wife said she was going to take her to Emergency to have her checked out. This was strange as she had had the exact same pains a few months prior which my wife said were due to growing pains at the time. She then also said she was going to take our son. I said he was happy sleeping and to leave but she said she was going to take him. Alarm bells started ringing for me at this point. The she tried to take the dog too. I had to stand behind the car to stop her from leaving the garage, at which point she said she was going to phone the police. She did and also told them that there were drawings the kids had done that “confirmed” abuse. When police arrived they spoke to both of us separately and then told me their hands were tied as there was no immediate danger to either her or anyone else. The next night I was exhausted and went to bed at 8.20pm. I awoke at 2.30 am as our dog was barking and I could hear knocking on the front door. I opened the bedroom door (sleeping alone now as both our kids and wife sleeping in living room floor) to see 3 police officers entering the house. They told her she should seek a medical help. She told it was in hand and they spoke to me briefly reiterating what they told my wife. She had actually lied to them and had only arranged to see a friend who is a counsellor to talk through options. I went to see her with my wife as she felt this was important but I saw it as delaying what she needs to do. It was like a little informal chat over a herbal tea and a complete waste of time. When I got home after a few hours she announced she was still scared of me. I left to calm down and think through my options and as I seem to be the main cause of her anxiety I left. I have no option financially other than to go back and I miss my children so much already and it’s only been a few hours. I feel the marriage is over and reason has left her. I’m on a friend’s couch for a few nights but work on Monday and I don’t know what to do. Any advice?
