My story

Hey @Former-Member well done on jumping over to the carers side! Actually appears to be quite common, people jumping back and forth between the two forums with the dual experience of lived experience and caring. Hats off to you strong soul Thank you so much for sharing your story, and how beautiful about your boy having such an impact on you - we are all so glad you're still here.

Your partner sounds like a good support too. The community is always here to listen about what you're going through with your Nan

And well done on heading back to uni what will you study?

Hey @Former-Member well done on jumping over to the carers side! Actually appears to be quite common, people jumping back and forth between the two forums with the dual experience of lived experience and caring. Hats off to you strong soul Thank you so much for sharing your story, and how beautiful about your boy having such an impact on you - we are all so glad you're still here.

Your partner sounds like a good support too. The community is always here to listen about what you're going through with your Nan

And well done on heading back to uni what will you study?

Thanks @Former-Member ,

I am studying a Bachelor of counselling

Thanks for sharing your carer's story @Former-Member. It's so hard to not be anxious about being an executor for your nan, but really, you just need to ensure that her wishes are carried out as per what she's been saying (and what she wants).

It sounds like you've really come along in your own journey and are really positive in caring for your son with your partner - it's great that you've got such strong support there.

A Bachelor of Counselling sounds great, do you have an idea of what you want to do as a career?

Thanks @outlander , I have seen you around in the other forum Im pretty sure we have talked before too but it's good to talk to someone else who also frequents both forum I think @Shaz51 is the same as well.

Thanks @Ali11 and I yes while it is just making sure her wishes are carried out and I know that I can respect them despite my own feelings of not wanting to. It will be very hard my nan is one of my family members I am closest to and it will be difficult to say goodbye if it happens but I also know I don't want her to suffer which she will if her wishes aren't respected and that's what my mother and uncles don't seem to understand they are just thinking about what they want and how they will feel if something happens. They are currently trying to prove that she is mentally incompetent at the time of signing said document but I don't think they will succeed anyway.

And yes my partner had been a very big part of my support system helping me to achieve what I have today I don't think I will ever be able to tell him how close he was to losing me back then but nobody realised how far down I had fallen, apparently I was really good at hiding it from people.

When I have finished my studies I am hoping to be a school counsellor at the local school but my long term career goal is to open my own trauma counselling practice for children and adolescents.

What an inspiring career goal @Former-Member – no doubt it will be a rewarding opportunity.

How are you feeling about beginning your studies? Have you developed a self care plan to help you balance the stress of study with other life and carer concerns? It may be helpful for you to plan ahead if you think this might become an issue, even if it is just scheduling in time to sit with your partner or take a regular walk.