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Vulnerability

Matt12Senior Contributor01 June 2019, 8:09 pm AEST

Vulnerability

Hi all

My journey is long and never-ending to a stable recovery "space" I now understand that schemas developed as a child and over time have become entrenched, which can not be changed. The go forward position for me is to create new thought patterns, not rewrite the tapes but create new ones to compensate for the schemes.

this process for me includes becoming vulnerable which as a man I find difficult "men don't cry". I understand Vulnerability is the key as if I block it out you block all feelings.

Why I am sensitive/compassionate/empathetic/caring/ I find it difficult to express, so I am enough and I will be seen as I wont to be a better "person"

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In response to: Vulnerability

BunniekinsSenior Contributor02 June 2019, 6:31 am AEST

Re: Vulnerability

@Matt12 Hi Matt12 you dont have to be a man to not be 'vulnerable'. I find it very hard to be vulerable and hide it under a veneer of toughness and lightheartedness. People often think the pea is hard sometimes even cold but I am not I just don't show my weaknesses for protection. Being vulnerable is hard but not impossible just make sure you stay protected. Love greenpeax

In response to: Vulnerability

Ali11Senior Contributor02 June 2019, 9:19 am AEST

Re: Vulnerability

Hey @Matt12, it can be hard to relearn empathy, sympathy and vulnerability, especially if one has been conditioned to block out all of these emotions previously. While you may not express it, having an understanding of what they are and what situations, where they are appropriate, might help you in your journey. Are you currently relearning all of this with your medical professional?

Think in real life, there's never going to be anyone with the "perfect" balance, we are all individual with different scales of empathy, sympathy and vulnerability.

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