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My new job is unbearable, should I quit?

aficionadoSenior Contributor01 June 2019, 7:04 am AEST

My new job is unbearable, should I quit?

First, a bit of background:

I quit a highly toxic and stressful job back in January:

https://ostara.saneforums.org/t5/Something-s-not-right/Work-pressure-killing-me-seeking-advice/m-p/670645#M162692

All said and done, I got a job at a contact centre last week, though my disability services provider. I have never had a job before, where I was required to talk to complete strangers. And I do have insecurities regarding my accent (I'm an immigrant).

The job is nothing short of torture, every damn minute. The irony is that, the managers and colleagues here are really helpful, and they try to encourage and motivate me a lot. In my previous job, it was the higher management which made life hell for the employees, although the actual job was manageable.

My employment services provider says that they can find me another job, but I should stay on till then so that I can pay my bills at least. They do have a point, but then I am just not able to continue anymore. I have clearly realised that talking to strangers isn't my thing (I kinda knew this, but decided to foolishly accept the job out of desperation), and I hate having to wake up to go to work. The trauma is so intense, that I am even throwing up food that I eat due to the stress.

Should I just quit? I borrowed some money from my family, so that I can pay my rent and bills for another 2 months for sure. If I do quit, can the employment provider blacklist em for not heeding their advice of sticking on till they found another job for me?

A more pressing issue is that, I have started having doubts about my ability to ever work again. This is quite scary, because I have always been quite productive in my life. I am just confused, tired, stressed and depressed.

I can't talk to friends or family because I have no one here in Australia like that. I have always turned to this forum for advice, and I have never been disappointed.

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Ali11Senior Contributor01 June 2019, 4:44 pm AEST

Re: My new job is unbearable, should I quit?

Hope the appointment went well @aficionado

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Matt12Senior Contributor01 June 2019, 8:38 pm AEST

Re: My new job is unbearable, should I quit?

I get it, never have doubts about your ability to ever work again as clearly you have a lot to offer. I have changed roles many times over the years for the right and wrong reasons.

Making money counts as bills need to be paid, look for options "which is a lot of work" then do it, remember Life is a compromise and never "even" at the best of times.

Breath, assess and make an informed choice

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aficionadoSenior Contributor02 June 2019, 10:04 am AEST

Re: My new job is unbearable, should I quit?

@Matt12

Thank you!

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BryanaCampSenior Contributor02 June 2019, 10:22 am AEST

Re: My new job is unbearable, should I quit?

morning @aficionado

your psychologist sounds terrific & knowledgeable, well done on finding her. Hope you feel better since your appointment with her. Sounds like your disability support service is obliged to find you more suitable work.

Of course you can improve you social skills, I agree with your psychologist, you just have to start at the shallow end and take it slowly. I went to heaps of Meetups & made lots of mistakes before I started to build friendships but it did happen. Even though your recent work experience was very painful, you may have improved your conversation skills without knowing it.

I'm glad you've enjoyed uni this year. It's a great idea to try to be a bit more social in the next term. You're a very bright & likable person & have a lot to offer, I'm sure people would enjoy your company.

Hope you're feeling better today & have a relaxing Sunday.

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aficionadoSenior Contributor02 June 2019, 5:45 pm AEST

Re: My new job is unbearable, should I quit?

@BryanaCamp

Yes indeed, she has helped me a lot over the last couple of years. She often gives me sound advice and coping tips.

As for socialising, I am already taking steps towards that. My second term at the university is starting tomorrow, and I have signed up for the 'Speedfriending' event organised by the student community. I have also purchased a ticket for the 'Back to university' student party on Thursday. I have never done these things before, and I am quite nervous. But it is still better than interacting with strangers at my job. And I might actually end up with a friend or two, provided they don't catch on to my mental illness and don't judge me.

Thanks again for your kind words! And the description of your experience with socialising is really inspiring for me, and gives me hope that I will eventually succeed at it some day.

My sunday was indeed relaxing, but I went through pretty bad maigraine for most of the day. Hope your day was better!

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