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Mum's ultrasound.

LemonjuiceSenior Contributor25 May 2019, 8:23 pm AEST

Mum's ultrasound.

Hi, wrote a few days ago that mum aged 83, had developed leukemia and how difficult that had been. In the last month, she started 'menstruating'. She had her ultrasound yesterday and I know enough about anatomy to see that she has something in her uterus. It could be a fibroid/-polyp haemorrhaging because her platelets (the stuff that thickens blood so we don't bleed out) are low, she's full of bruises. Or it could more likely be cancer. At 83, I don't know how much more treatment she can take, it's bad enough with the chemo for the leukemia. If they can't treat the new possible cancer, then I will tell them to stop the other treatment for the leukemia and just do transfusions to keep her bloods up until she dies. She may as well be comfortable for whatever time she has. Kind of strange cause everything that happens has a 'this could be our last time' feeling, though she may live months or years if it's just a polyp haemorrhaging and the chemo for the leukemia works. Is it evil to wish that your mother would die quickly, suddenly? I can't stand the thought of a slow painful death for us. I just want it to be over for both our sakes.

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QueenieSenior Contributor25 May 2019, 9:00 pm AEST

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It’s not evil @Lemonjuice to wish a sudden pain free passing for someone we care about. I remember having similar thoughts about my brother when he was terminally ill. I hate thinking of him suffering and in agony.

I’m sure this is where your thinking is. Thinking of both you and your mum.

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DogloverSenior Contributor25 May 2019, 9:09 pm AEST

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@Lemonjuice @Queenie

So sorry for what your mum is going through, and therefore you also. It's not evil, its compassion. Your mum has obviously already suffered so much, you dont want to see her suffer more. I think most people watching a loved one suffer for a long period would firstly want them to get better but if that wasnt likely, and their suffering was only going to continue, or get worse, would feel the same way you do.

I hope you get the answers soon so u at least know what u r dealing with.

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Ali11Senior Contributor26 May 2019, 9:09 am AEST

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We're so sorry to hear this @Lemonjuice, and no, you aren't evil at all for thinking that. It is only natural to not want those who we love to suffer. Does the hospital have a grievance counsellor that they can organise to help you through the process if it happens?

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Gazza75Senior Contributor28 May 2019, 2:31 pm AEST

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@Lemonjuice- Heart goes out to you and your mum. I hope you both can enjoy the time you have left together and she is as comfortable as possible.

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LemonjuiceSenior Contributor28 May 2019, 10:29 pm AEST

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Thank you.

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LemonjuiceSenior Contributor28 May 2019, 10:36 pm AEST

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We got the ultrasound and while she has a large cyst on her left ovary, there doesn't appear to be a cancer there, thankfully. The only problem is she is still discharging blood from down there. It's got us stumped. So next the specialist gyno in a couple of weeks.

Thanking everyone for your support.

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