How to manage my bad anxiety attacks

Having issues with co-workers definitely adds to the workplace anxiety @Snoopy88, so we can see how it can affect you even more. Are you able to talk to a manager about what you are going through?

we started with "word by mouth " @Snoopy88 and printing out ads to see if anyone wanted lawns mowed or house cleaned

That would put your anxiety levels up with your co-worker

keep on asking for a store transferr

@Ali11 @Shaz51 I tired to speak to the supervisor about it she said she can’t do anything maybe if I speak to the store manager. But I’m scared to do that because when I told the girl I was scared of comming to work she said it’s not her problem and I shouldn’t try to get her in trouble as she said she works hard at her job. I’m really scared to go to work because my anxiety gets so bad I feel like quitting.

Sorry to hear that @Snoopy88. Does your work have any kind of EAP (Employee Assistance Program) in place? How comfortable would you feel talking to the store manager, have you had many conversations with them in the past?

@Ali11 yes I have used EPA in the past I don’t know if I can use them again I’ll call them and check. I’m not very comfortable to talk with my store manager. I’m really scared of the girl what if she gets really mad at me if I speak to the store manager. I’m really scared if she will be back in my department. I’m so anxious about it. I hope I can transferr in the future I feel like quitting my job but than I’m not confident to start new job. And I’m happy with the hours I get at this work place. I really do hope I can get a transferr.

Hopefully, you can get that transfer @Snoopy88, it's not good to hear that you are scared about talking to your manager about the situation. What is your work schedule like this week?

@Ali11 @I’m working on Friday 9:30 to 2 sat 11 to 4 and Sunday 10 to 3. I spoke to my line manager that I’m uncomfortable to work there and wish to change stores. I even opened up to her about my mental health issues she was rude and said mental health is your choice you need to learn to deal with people where ever you go. I can’t believe she said mental health is my choice. I was told I should report her to HR. But I’m scared if that will make things worse for me at work. She’s so mean. I’m also really scared about this girl I had a fall out with that I told you earlier about. I hope she doesn’t come back to my department. I’m really scared of her and my line manager.

5 hour shifts are a good length @Snoopy88, do you get a break during the shift? If you chose to not engage with this other person, are you able to work away from them? That dismissive response from the line manager is disappointing, sorry you've had that experience Have you looked in to what HR can do, have they got an employee support plan?

@Ali11 5hours is good but it still feels long I get 15minutes break for working 5 hours. At the moment the co worker is not working in my department she use to be there so I’m worried if she comes back there. I hope I can get transferred before she comes back there. Yeah my line manager can be abit harsh at times. I don’t know what to tell HR. I just don’t want to get anyone in trouble so that things are not worse for me. If you have any suggestions to what I can tell HR please let me know

Hi @Snoopy88

Sorry it’s taken a long time to get back to respond to your question about how to accept it. For me I think that when I knew I was in a meltdown I knew it would be bad and it would be for days. I could only see the bad and almost try to fight it. Over time and being reminded over and over from people (forum members, sane help centre, my therapist and care coordinator) I eventually began to realise that it was true. It was a regular thing for me. I had got through it many times before and would again...and again....and again etc. The length of time I struggled with that high emotion started to reduce as I told myself or was reminded by others that it would pass. Eventually I learned to recognise it too. The less thought I gave into thinking it was the worst most horrible thing at the time and the more I learned the things that worked for me the easier it got. Having said that I’m sure I’ll get caught out again and fall over but generally it has been a bit easier. I remind myself it’s part of me but doesn’t have to rule me if that makes sense. It may not be helpful for you but I wanted to share in case it was. Best wishes.