Happy mothers day

Hi @Diamond

Happy Mothers Day to you too 🙂

I hope that you do get a chance to step back and relax today!

Take Care

Happy Mother`s day @Diamond, @Fancy_Pants, @Attahua, @Faith-and-Hope, @Lily

Hope you have a nice relaxing Day

Hi everyone 😊

Thanks Shaz51

I hope everyone had a decent Mother's Day with more special memories attached to the occasion 💐

We had a turning of the tide. Husband hadn't spoken to daughter since Friday, and yesterday was the last birthday she will have at home before getting married later this year. So sad. She couldn't approach him cos he was emotionally unstable, so it meant waiting it out. Had a birthday breakfast with her fiancé's family and us. He sat chatting to everyone else and ignored her completely.

At the Mother's Day lunch table today they were sitting closer, and she just passed him things down the table, and casually started to chat about this and that, and he responded as though nothing had been wrong, and yesterday hadn't happened. He knows it did, but it was their way of finding a way to step past it for the moment, and at least resume civilities.

He goes away again tomorrow night, so I expect there will be something said between them before then. Maybe not, I don't know. Eggshells. If they do, I hope it's not another blow-up, but if it is, we have three weeks to get over it at least.

All in all it was a peaceful Mother's Day. Miss my mum ...

Loving that you guys listen and care. Thanks heaps 😘 ... 💋

Hi Diamond 💍

Not a dampener. Sounds like you have set some boundaries with determination. All the best with that. It won't be easy, but I bet it will be worth it to see some changes.

I'm learning too, from everything I'm reading on the forums here. My husband definitely has an ocd thing underlying his ED and behaviour issues. I didn't know when he was working long hours for many years that workaholism is an ocd. Now he has just transferred that into working at his ED with the same intensity.

I think it's natural to want to fix problems, for ourselves and others, and bring comfort that way. With many things though, it's a process that takes time. There are often gifts in it too. If I start counting blessings, I do have some.

It is character-building. That's not just a cliche. I am seeing us all struggle individually, and together like a team, and I am proud of us in this achievement. We are having to practice a lot of patience, and have empathy for each other along the way. We are learning to recognise our limits and out up boundaries, and that also involves recognising each other's limits and respecting each other's boundaries.

Sometimes you don't realise how strong you can be until it's put to the test. You also learn to admire the sort of strength developed in other people from struggling with hardship, but being determined not to let anger and bitterness rule them as a consequence. It took me a long time to realise that anger leads to bitterness if you don't learn to deal with it and let it go in the anger stage.

Thanks for sharing 😊

I'm to bed.💤

Thanx!!!! Life is slowly getting back on track but we have a way to go yet!!! Hope you all had a lovely Mother's Day too x

Hi Diamond

I'm not sure what all the answers are. Maybe it's a matter of living in the moment a little bit, like dealing with someone with short term memory issues. If you can take it like that, it means you can at least enjoy the time he spent at the table with you eating dinner tonight, even if he responded negatively again afterwards.

You can cherish all the little successes, like a scrapbook, and revisit them in your mind on more difficult days.

I hope that helps.

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