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Disassociating is ruining me

Ztar24Contributor11 May 2019, 3:19 pm AEST

Disassociating is ruining me

I'm not sure if anyone else has some experience and or help to give. I've been doing really well with my mental health since leaving the hospital in late December. Recently I've been under a lot of pressure and I've started disassociating. I basically just shut off all my feelings and thoughts. It's something I've done all my life, especially as a child to deal with trauma.

The problem now is I'm doing so much better, not needing my anxiety meds, staying sober and present in the moment, the difference between me being 'here' and 'away' is very obvious to my husband. I'm also unable to not drink when I'm disassociating. It's like I have no control and this 'other' part of me is in control. The only way for me to be present again is to just go to sleep and hope I wake up better.

Any ideas on how to stop disassociating and take back control?

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In response to: Disassociating is ruining me

LadyCarolineSenior Contributor14 Sept 2019, 4:28 pm AEST

Re: Disassociating is ruining me

I get what you are saying. I had a problem with drinking, drugs and lost behaviour episodes. All I can say is that it takes time and for me psychology has been helpful in helping with some of the internal turmoil.

It is good that your partner is aware, having someone else present can be helpful to minimise any risky behaviour.

One thing that can help is remove any alcohol from the house and then it will not be a go to, tough if your partner likes a little drink I am sure. Try and create a routine as well that can be comforting and help reduce the stress associated with disassociating. Ok hope that helps. Much love.

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