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My son is struggling really hard...

My son is struggling really hard...

Hi, I have been reading this forum for a long time and helped me so much....

But I don’t know what to do anymore so I thought I asked for help.

My son is early twenty now and discharged from hospital about a month ago. He was in hospital for 5 weeks. This is his second hospitalization. He had first hospitalization three years ago and diagnosed schizophrenia. He is on ITO and on monthly depo medication again.

I knew he was still delusional when he got discharged this time but his delusions is getting stronger last few days. He has been talking about the device implanted on his wrist when he broke his wrist at 15 years old. There is no such device in his wrist but he believes there is and the device is sending him weird thoughts. He didnt talk about it all the time but now and then he did. But recently he started talking about a lot and went to see the doctor to get the device out of his wrist. He told me he won’t say to the doctor “device” but he will tell that the little bone tips are annoying him. Off course doctor didn’t cut his wrist to get bone tips out as he wished. That was last week.

Then two days ago, I noticed there is scar on his wrist looks like skin got peeled. I asked him what happened. He said he took the device out by himself.

He spend all day sitting in a chair outside away from the house. I went to talk to him a few times but he told me to leave him alone in unfriendly way. He seems to digging the scar with his finger.... His mood seems to change a lot and recently became very sad, angry, very distant,,,, he refuses to go to counselling and running out of friends because he thinks they are against him...

When he got discharged, I felt he is not much deffirent from the time he got taken to hospital 5 weeks ago. Psych team and case manager told me that recovery takes time.. I took off from my work and came back to look after him in my house. After discharged he came back with me but went out to friends place a lot and stayed his father place for a while but recently came back to my place. His father said didn’t have fight with him but not good feeling between them.

I have a male adult who is renting a room. My son has been very fond of him but my son became unfriendly towards him for the first time last night. so he is isolating him totally.... not talking to me either....

i don’t know ant to do....

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Hi, I have to write my feeling out again...

my son called yesterday and asked me to take him out to 2 hours leave. So I said yes, I will be there soon. But he called my name instead of “mum” in the phone, That is the sign he wants to keep a distance from me. Anyway, when I got there, he game me a hug and we went out. He was pretty quiet and just wanted to sit at picnic table in park. He wanted to borrow my ipad to search for rental property. He said he need his own place. He didn’t want to talk to me but he said “it’s karma.” when something dropped from tree above us onto my phone screen and frightened me. He said “I should be good. Because I have done many bad things” when I asked to tell me what bad things I did... he said “you know all”

anyway we didn’t talk much and two hours past and he said he will walk back to hospital. When we went back to hospital, his nurse didn’t keep his lunch so he asked me to get something to eat for him. So I did. He thanked me and invited to sit in garden with him in hospital. I was going to tell him after he finish eating how he ends up back in hospital on Wednesday. I wanted to enjoy lunch first before we talk which he did. But after he finish eating, he started asking me who open mouth to case manager. He said “he was just having bad days and suddenly police came and get me back here! I haven’t seen him for weeks. Somebody must told case manager! Is that you? Dad? John (who lives in my house)? “ I said I did. I said I was worried but I told case manager that he does not need to go back to hospital. But he rang me back and told me police is on the way to pick you up suddenly. I asked him to stop but ...”

as you can imagine, he was very very angry with me and said many things but I can not remember. Only this keep repeating in my head.

“ you pretend to help me but you ruin my life”

maybe that’s true. I pretend to be strong but I keep making a mistakes and not helping him.,, i don’t have a clue any more. I was scared what is going happen next. Maybe I just wanted to talked to someone and discuss what to do. I didn’t want to send him hospital. His father doesn’t want to hear. He said to me just say our son is doing good or bad. I told him that he is getting worse on Monday.... he said he is going to come and see him but he didn’t. I think it was my weakness. I can not ask any friend what to do. I felt I can not involve any friends nor my daughter in this situation. Too intense. So end up talking to his case manager. I only wanted to him to know what happening. I said to him I want to see how he goes... but I feel he made decision because it’s going to be long weekend and he is going away next week. I wish he didn’t. But can’t change now.

My apology for my English might have many mistakes as It’s my second language... and plus my ipad is playing up sometimes.

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sending you lots of tender hugs @Janey my friend

we are here for you anytime

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