New here :) I'm 21 and my partner has Schizophrenia

Hey @Tictac ,

I hope you're going ok.

I'm always up for a chat

Love,

Plantlady xxx

Hi @PlantLady

Congratulations on graduating.

MI can be overwhelming for family and adjustments can take time. Once I understood this, I didn't put any pressure on Mr Darcy or myself and I am finding joy again. One thing I did not lose was my sense of humour and remain thankful for so many things.

I am afraid I am not the best person to ask about meditation and mindfulness, it is not my cup of tea.

Thank you @Former-Member

I'm glad you're finding joy again.

I hope that you do too @PlantLady

Hi @outlander,

things are going ok at the moment.

My partner is pretty stable at the moment, and he's in a good routine. He's been very aware of old habits (eg: isolating himself or procrastinating) and has been able to get himself out of those habits when they sneak in. I'm really happy with how well he is handling himself and his symptoms. He's doing well with his study and seems really motivated.

I'm struggling a little with our current living situation. We both live at our parents' houses, but they are an hour and a half drive apart. At the moment I'm scheduling my activities around his (eg: Volunteering 2 days a week at the same times that he's at uni) so that I have as much free time to spend with him and to help him study etc. It usually ends up that we spend 3 days together at one house, then 2 days apart, then 3 days at the other house. I'm getting to the point of my personal development where I want to commit to more of my own activities (get a new job or volunteer more, set a routine at the gym, join a social group, etc.) so I need to restructure this schedule somehow.

I miss the independence of living together, but I know it wouldn't work right now, and it's not what's best for either of us. I'm really trying hard with my own personal development, but I find my self frustrated by lack of energy and sometimes I feel like I'm not getting anywhere.

I saw my GP on an unrelated note, and they ended up booking me in for an assessment to do a mental health care plan for myself. I feel a bit conflicted because I'm already seeing a counsellor, but at the same time, I feel like I do need a bit more support at this time. Now that my partner seems stable, a lot of my own mental health issues seem to be coming back. I've been feeling depressed and anxious, and it's just frustrating, like I just want to live my life and do things I enjoy, but I don't enjoy anything at the moment.

sorry for the long ramble

How are things going for you @outlander?

Hi @outlander ,

Thanks for checking in on me and thanks for your kind words.

I hope you get everything done that you want to, and hope your operation goes well