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not knowing.

PeppiPattySenior Contributor24 Mar 2019, 12:16 am AEDT

not knowing.

Hello All,

It's been a while.......

things have been getting difficult with Mr Buddha and me. He is still the same loving gorgeous man I've known but mood swings rock the boat, very little intimacy and flat, non emotional behaviour wearies me.

Last week, I signed up for Relationship councilling again. About 6 weeks ago, my brother bought me a ticket to visit him in San Fransisco. He is a generous wonderful man. But Im in a dillema: When I was in America, my brother divulged to me the sexual abuse that he had when a youngster.

I was never in that position. But My brothers were messed around with when they were young. It feels like I might have lost my oldest brother, I just dont know what to say to him. They all despise Mum. She refuses to believe it ever happened but I know definately know that it did.

What do I do? I feel like I've got a group of men around me whenever I turn around and I dont know what to say..................

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor28 May 2020, 5:22 pm AEST

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@PeppiPatty

Hope you are doing alright.

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ClimatechangeContributor06 July 2020, 1:52 am AEST

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@PeppiPatty. I'm new here Peppi just finding my way around. Saw your post and as survivor of sexual abuse myself felt for your brother, and felt for you. I hope you are doing ok and get to read my post. I found the very best thing was for me to believed. My mother did not believe me. My father was not the perpetrator. You have not lost your brother. You could in fact become closer when he knows he is heard and believed by a sister who cares. ~ Climatechange

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