Parents Supporting Unwell Adult Children

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I have 4 children ; 2 of which are heavy needs. Youngest son PTSD/Anxiety & Depression; older daughter 24 ; Anxiety & Depression & Panic

I look forward to the forum on helping adult children

@Herewegoround

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Hi and welcome to the forums @Herewegoround 👋

Hello everyone who is reading this.

Hope you are doing well.

I have been off the forum for a while although I still check in occasionally to see what is happening. I came across this thread today and am wondering if anybody has any thoughts on something I have been concerned 😟 with lately. I recently had a bit of a health scare myself. Thankfully 😅 a doctor 👩‍⚕️ found the source of my problem which is manageable rather than the degenerative conditions which were being bandied about for awhile. But the threat has me thinking 🤔 more about the future. The thing that scares me is that I might have to rely on family members to support me. I know that healthy caring needs to be a two way thing but I also think 🤔 that we provide that care based on individual strengths. I don’t really expect family members with depression and anxiety 😟 issues to be able to support my daily needs in a way I would be comfortable with. I am wondering if anyone else has thought about this and have some ideas to comfort my concern.

😊 cheers

Hello.

I have only just found this forum and signed up. I am a mum and a carer of my 2 adult children who live with me. My son is 24 and has ASD 3 and ADHD and a Tic disorder as well. My daughter is 26 and has ASD 2 and OCD and Social anxiety disorder. Their dad rarely supports them as he has Bipolar and Alcohol/Drug Use Disorder and recently mentioned Borderline Personality (sorry about all the labels- just trying to give a picture of my situation) and he lives with his parents 4 hours away.

My son has a few supports in place like Speech therapy and physiotherapy and a psychiatrist. I have just found a new OT and someone to help me with his NDIS funding. He doesn't want anyone to help him but I am really really exhausted. He takes medication to help with his meltdowns which helps a little. He needs a lot more than that though. Over the years he has refused help but I have asserted to him that it helps him and will make a difference. He usually gives things a try at least once. But lately, I am feeling very tired and worn out. I am starting to think that it's me with problems. Undiagnosed ones. Like I have a mood disorder. Or is that just all part of "caring"? I feel angry inside. I am holding it in. I feel guilty just feeling angry. It's not their fault. It's no one's fault. No one knows how I feel...I don't get angry with anyone. I just take a deep breath and keep going but just lately I feel like crying a lot. My doctor wants me to take antidepressants but they make me overweight and I can't sleep which triggers other things for me. I started to get up early so I could have time to myself but now my son gets up then too. Thats a whole other story as to why but it's because he is "checking". I feel like I am starting to have a breakdown. I do have friends. But when I mention my situation then I get a rundown on all their problems. Which is supposed to make me feel better like my problems are not as bad. But my situation doesn't change. This is not going away. Or I get a whole lot of advice, which is nice. It just leaves me feeling like they must think I am an idiot.

Right now I am just ranting. I really needed to offload these feelings and see if anyone else feels like this. Thank you for reading.