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Not sure what to do !!!

Shaz51Senior Contributor16 Mar 2019, 7:17 pm AEDT

Not sure what to do !!!

Got a question , a problem , kind of ?? @Former-Member , @Appleblossom , @outlander , @Determined , @Faith-and-Hope , @Jacques , @PeppiPatty , @Owlunar , @Sophie1 , @Sophia1

unsure what to do as mum has been in hospital for nearly 4 weeks so far after her hip surgery and as well as having reoccurring bowel obstructions

mr shaz and my cousins think my mum is scared of going back to her house

been getting the house rearranged and sorted for her to come back home

I have been visiting her everyday and sometimes I wonder if she is developing dementain

got a transistion appt to develope a home plan for the near future , I am asking my aunty to be there with me

I sometimes think she is not ready to go home

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor27 July 2023, 8:19 pm AEST

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@Jacques Hope you are on chat now. I have just come back from choir practise. Anticipation fear can be worse than real life sometimes. Have you done any somatic work for calming ... honestly when I am at my most vulnerable I now simply curl up. Lately I have a weighted blanket. Even going through being aware of each part of your body starting with your toes and feet and work your way up. Not sure whzt workd for you. We have known you for a long time and do care. SOunds as if your partner does too. You are good and practical, try not to focus on losing mum but on things that help your body manage your feelings.

Talk later

Apple

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JacquesSenior Contributor27 July 2023, 8:26 pm AEST

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thank you @Shaz51 it has been a truly awful day, a real rough one. i have not struggled like this in years.

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JacquesSenior Contributor27 July 2023, 8:30 pm AEST

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hi @Appleblossom yes the fear of the unknown is so terrifying, i have tried a lot of my techniques today i think i just lost control today and found it hard to get any techniques to work. im going to try some relaxation techniques tonight when i decide to go to bed. @Meowmy gave some new techniques i am going to try with leg excercises.

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor27 July 2023, 8:34 pm AEST

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Sometimes techniques are really helpful and sometimes we just have to wait til things have eased so that we can even apply them. @Jacques I know you are sensible. I am glad your partner cares. We can have all the best plans and knowledge but sometimes we have to wing it.

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JacquesSenior Contributor27 July 2023, 8:38 pm AEST

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so so true @Appleblossom you are truly an amazing friend, @Shaz51 too. im so grateful, im logging off for the night. thank you for all your kindness and support. will update how i go tonight in the morning. hugs to you both.

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MeowmySenior Contributor27 July 2023, 8:42 pm AEST

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@Jacques hey Jacques, I did those leg exercises to calm my anxiety. I did them until I feel my body is slightly warm and my breathing is flowing. Then I had a shower. Then I put some vapour rub on my chest. Then I just lie and let emotions go through my mind. It seems to work. Hope it might work a bit for you.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor27 July 2023, 8:51 pm AEST

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Here for you my forum brother @Jacques 🥰❤️

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JacquesSenior Contributor28 July 2023, 3:50 am AEST

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hi everyone, im in the middle of another panic attack. Only 2 hours sleep. Um beside myself. This is so out of control.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor28 July 2023, 7:34 am AEST

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@Shaz51 how are things today for you & Mr Shaz 🩷

@Jacques thinking of you also 🧡

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MeowmySenior Contributor28 July 2023, 6:01 pm AEST

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@Jacques hey Jacques, how are you going? I am home now. Hope you can get a bit comfort and peace.

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