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Not sure what to do !!!

Not sure what to do !!!

Got a question , a problem , kind of ?? @Former-Member , @Appleblossom , @outlander , @Determined , @Faith-and-Hope , @Jacques , @PeppiPatty , @Owlunar , @Sophie1 , @Sophia1

unsure what to do as mum has been in hospital for nearly 4 weeks so far after her hip surgery and as well as having reoccurring bowel obstructions

mr shaz and my cousins think my mum is scared of going back to her house

been getting the house rearranged and sorted for her to come back home

I have been visiting her everyday and sometimes I wonder if she is developing dementain

got a transistion appt to develope a home plan for the near future , I am asking my aunty to be there with me

I sometimes think she is not ready to go home

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Evening @Shaz51,

I've just caught up with what's happening with your mum and it sounds like you're both going through so much right now. Making these kinds of decisions then following through can be incredibly challenging. How are you going with it all today? It's great you managed to get a few days break away, I hope you were able to recharge a little 💛

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What’s happening sis @Shaz51 xxxx

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Thank you @Former-Member xxx

It is sooo hard as

The doctor has put in for permanent care at the babinda hospital when it is available so mum is staying in hospital until then

Mum is fighting to go back home but even her sister is saying no that she needs to stay in hospital @BlueBay , @Dimity , @Emelia8 @Determined

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It's very hard @Shaz51.

Sitting with you.

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Here with you @Shaz51, it's a hard path to be navigating and I genuinely feel for you. Your mum's reaction is a common one and understandable as they face losing their independence, but that doesn't make it any easier for you as you support her through this process 💜

Did you have a good weekend away?

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Sitting with you @Shaz51 at this difficult time xxxxx

hugs lovely

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Ohh no @BlueBay , @Former-Member , @Dimity , @Former-Member , @Emelia8, @Jacques , @moderator , @Faith-and-Hope , @Adge

Mum is going to take 3 weeks of Physio in a hospital that is 30 kms away because she believes she will go back home if she does

She has been given a final choice of taking Physio or staying in hospital until there is a bed available

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That's a worry @Shaz51 . Maybe it's just putting off the inevitable but meanwhile giving your mum time to adjust. In residential rehab she'll be monitored and assessed, and given physio sessions, but Dad was left to do set exercises like walking by himself a lot of the day, and if she's still in pain and not really mobile it's hard to see how she'll manage.

I know it's hard not to worry but she'll be looked after and it could be a reality check for her in a safe environment where you're off the hook.

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Thank you @Dimity and sending you hugs my friend xx

Very true but still a bit worried but I know she will be in good hands

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I can understand your concern @Shaz51

sending you lots of hugs and love ❤️ xxxx

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