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Not sure what to do !!!

Not sure what to do !!!

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unsure what to do as mum has been in hospital for nearly 4 weeks so far after her hip surgery and as well as having reoccurring bowel obstructions

mr shaz and my cousins think my mum is scared of going back to her house

been getting the house rearranged and sorted for her to come back home

I have been visiting her everyday and sometimes I wonder if she is developing dementain

got a transistion appt to develope a home plan for the near future , I am asking my aunty to be there with me

I sometimes think she is not ready to go home

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Have not done the covid19 test yet @Emelia8 , @Determined

Yes being nearly 91 and in lots of pain is not good xxx

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My dear @Shaz51 ,

I’m sorry to hear how tough today is for you. I hear there is so much going on.

At 91, a fracture in the pelvis is so painful and probably will take time to heal.

Without thinking too much into “What will the future look like?”, I’d encourage you to find some rest for tonight - you’ve had a very hectic week.

Alternatively, our amazing SANE counsellors will be available 10am-10pm for a chat on 1800 187 263. It may help speaking to someone tonight.

Hugs,

tyme

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Thank you and hugs my @tyme xoxo

Thank you for your support

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So sorry for your predicament @Shaz51 a fracture at 91 is bad news indeed. Rest and pain relief might give you time for longer term decisions. Dad was already in care when he broke his shoulder. Going into care was his decision when offered the place. I couldn't have supported him in the same way, tho I'd done my best.

Sending you love and best wishes (and hoping you stay Covid free)

Dimity

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Yes very hard my @Dimity , but she is in the best place but to her she wants to come home

And yes we are going to be tested tomorrow for covid19

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Give it time @Shaz51 your mum is likely to need nursing for a while yet. It's great if she's alert and even a bit feisty, poor dad was heavily sedated. Please look after yourself through all this, I hope Mr shaz is OK too. You're lucky to have extended family close by.

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Oh my @Dimity , mum is on lots of pain medication for the pain

Myself I am feeling sad but wi be strong for Mr shaz and my mum

Mr shaz played some music treapy tonight to cope xx

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music therapy is good @Shaz51 .... enjoy

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Nice and loud my @Dimity xoxo

Ho we are you my friend

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Muddling along thanks @Shaz51 struggling a bit sometimes with depression and fatigue. I found out I'm prediabetic so I need to do something about it... do you have any tips?

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