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Not sure what to do !!!

Not sure what to do !!!

Got a question , a problem , kind of ?? @Former-Member , @Appleblossom , @outlander , @Determined , @Faith-and-Hope , @Jacques , @PeppiPatty , @Owlunar , @Sophie1 , @Sophia1

unsure what to do as mum has been in hospital for nearly 4 weeks so far after her hip surgery and as well as having reoccurring bowel obstructions

mr shaz and my cousins think my mum is scared of going back to her house

been getting the house rearranged and sorted for her to come back home

I have been visiting her everyday and sometimes I wonder if she is developing dementain

got a transistion appt to develope a home plan for the near future , I am asking my aunty to be there with me

I sometimes think she is not ready to go home

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Thanks heaps @Shaz51 I think you are wonderful & doing a fantastic Job - With caring for your Mum.

Especially as she gets angry with you, when you haven't done anything.

I know what that feels like - My Mum frequently Shouts at me & is very angry with me (on the Telephone).

"You're an idiot" (Mum said) - "Don't do Traffic Management" (a few days ago).

I had to ask Mum to stop (She did not stop) - "Please Stop Mum" (I said), "This is leaving me feeling much worse"....

Adge

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Awwww....sorry to hear @Adge .

I guess so many people are actually out of work at the moment, so any job is better than none!

For me, I'd just be grateful. Gratitude leaves no room for disgruntlement.

With you here,

BPDSurvivor

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@Shaz51 @Anastasia .... when you get your hair coloured, can you also get me a haircut? Or ask the hairdresser if they offer online services for poor Melbournians still in lockdown? I'll gladly transfer money through. I just reallllllyyyyy need a haircut!

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Oh I hope you can have one soon @BPDSurvivor 🙏

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You're not an idiot @Adge 🤗

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@Shaz51

@Adge

@Anastasia

Ha ha ... love @BPDSurvivor name for you.

Re art... I would have been put off if it had been forced like that.

It has been a background theme in my life in different ways.

My father took me to gallery 2-3 times when I was about 9, and we had a painter in other side of family with a lot of very average oil paintings floating around. I still have a couple.

It became an interest when I could access a lot on the net.

As an Aussie in the arts, I became aware of some of the concept of the 'cultural cringe' in some Aussies. In last 10 years collecting and looking at paintings seemed to help validate and calm me down in ways beyond words, which was a very good thing and I needed it. Thought maybe it was a good way to spread calm and keep learning about a new field.

Apple

@Shaz51 Things have settled a bit for me. Still in Gently Bently mode.

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Thanks NanaStasia! @Anastasia ! I absolutely need it! What a shame they only provide IOU Coupons and not online treatment.

I should take it up to the board and say that due to restrictions, all services should have the capacity to serve their customers online lol! Including hair cuts!

You've given me a laugh this morning. I walk around with a beanie in case I shock the world ...feel like a hairy baboon....

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Love it @Appleblossom !

If I had that in my context, I'd probably appreciate art more than I do now.

But I am really starting to open up to interpreting art as I am beginning to see the depth of thought in it.

Feel free to post any pieces of inspiration. Perhaps we can share our interpretations.

BPDSurvivor

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Haha love the beanie idea, I very much doubt you like like a hairy baboon!

My hair is thin and long so no desperate need for the haircut but ridiculously white (my Nanastasia name is very fitting) very overdue for the colour. I'm going into the office today for the first time in months.

Pants are considerably tighter and hair white. They might not recognise me and turn me away @BPDSurvivor 😱

Happy Monday all @Shaz51 @Appleblossom @Adge @Zoe7

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Love to share thoughts about art. @BPDSurvivor

I was never particularly good with it. Mother and I sold water colour cards in subway when I was 9, so I have joked and said I have sold my art, but think they bought it for cute effect. I have sat for a portrait with my uncle, who did it at mother's request, and have known a few artists over the years. My gallery visit have been pretty intermittent. It has been a very thin strand but steady throughout my life. I have bought original art, opshop art, attended exhibitions, known an indigenous artist hanging in big galleries, whatever. I finally settled in my house and made art on the walls a feature. I am not like @Faith-and-Hope and @Zoe7 who actually do it. I do literature and music and that keeps me busy enough, I am very happy to look at others' work.

Cheers Bella

Hugs @Shaz51 and nannastasia @Anastasia

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