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Not sure what to do !!!

Not sure what to do !!!

Got a question , a problem , kind of ?? @Former-Member , @Appleblossom , @outlander , @Determined , @Faith-and-Hope , @Jacques , @PeppiPatty , @Owlunar , @Sophie1 , @Sophia1

unsure what to do as mum has been in hospital for nearly 4 weeks so far after her hip surgery and as well as having reoccurring bowel obstructions

mr shaz and my cousins think my mum is scared of going back to her house

been getting the house rearranged and sorted for her to come back home

I have been visiting her everyday and sometimes I wonder if she is developing dementain

got a transistion appt to develope a home plan for the near future , I am asking my aunty to be there with me

I sometimes think she is not ready to go home

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Hello @Smc , @Former-Member , @Anastasia , @Emelia8 , @eth

Home again

Not for long , got a birthday dinner to go to tonight

Soo will be unable to do the Friday night feast xxx

Ohhh soo much is going on and Mr shaz hates changes

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very tired @Smc , @Former-Member , @Anastasia , @Determined @eth , @Emelia8

over the last week

mr shaz has had some sunspots cut out

have done all the paperwork for centrelink

this morning we were at centrelink

home now and mr shaz has gone to bed

have a leaking washing machine

the specialist has sent me back to the dietician

one of our doctors who has treated the 3 of us -- calls me "The Boss" now

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Not surprised Mr Shaz has gone to bed, wondering how you're still standing. Sounds like a massive week... and Centrelink appointments can be very exhausting.

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Hi dear @Shaz51 ... it has been a busy week for you so far, and more of the week still to come. At least you will have a Smokey day tomorrow. 🐈

Good to hear you have completed and submitted all your paperwork to Centrelink. Really hope this time your application for Carer Payment or Allowance is approved. It most definitely should be.

Which specialist has sent you back to the dietician Shaz? Kidney specialist (CKD) or endocrinologist (Diabetes)? Do you have an appointment yet? Ha ha ... I can just see you Shaz ... Boss lady! In the most gentle of ways, I am quite positive. 🤗💕

Hi also to @Former-Member @Anastasia @eth @Smc @Owlunar

Emelia 🌸

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thank you @Emelia8 , @Smc , @Former-Member

it has been a busy week for you so far, and more of the week still to come. --- yes and having big trouble with telstras

and mr shaz woke up and said " he want`s to retire "

completed and submitted all your paperwork to Centrelink.-- fingers crossed @Emelia8

looks like we got the low income health care card ✔

Which specialist has sent you back to the dietician Shaz? --- the CKD kidney specialist , and got an appt next wednesday ( and i used to go to her before )

Ha ha ... I can just see you Shaz ... Boss lady!:

@Owlunar, @Anastasia , @eth

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Hello @eth , @Jacques , @Appleblossom , @Owlunar , @Bunniekins , @Smc , @Emelia8 , @Adge

thank you for the check in

how are you this weekend

thank you for the tags
soo much is going on
and then last night S2 rang on the video chat , not good , he has ADHD and depression and has been letting himself go
our washing maching has been leak and we found there were two splits in the hose so Mr Shaz tried to fix it
fingers crossed -- i have done 2 loads since and no leaking yet
and mr shaz seems to be tiring a lot more lately

having big trouble with telstra !!!!!

did our food shooping and mum`s today

had lunch and felt very tired , so went to bed and the phone woke me up

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Hi @Shaz51

You do have a lot on your work load right now and of course - it all seems to be happening with so much stress on the communities everywhere

So S2 had ADHD and depression which sounds enough but letting himself go is serious - has he had a diagnosis or is he falling in a heap and looking at that as a cause for doing so? I know the ?crisis is making it hard for people to get by - and - like - how long can this last - when I hear the press conferences the reporters are almost begging the politicians to give us the end-by date but who can tell - and it is a worry for you and for Mr Shaz that S2 is - well - battling. How can you support him? It does seem to get back to you doesn't it.

And no wonder - Mr Shaz is tiring more - this I understand - more stress for him and more anxiety - and we all battle on in different ways. I hope he is okay

And you too - have you had any news about your kidney transplant yet? You might have posted this but I haven't been in this forum at all recently - I do read the other one though I have been busy and not posting much - I hope you can keep as well as possible with all this happening

Shopping for you and your mum - and washing machine problems - who needs that? Testra issues - I have heard that - I had problems with them early in the lock down - I think they are short staffed and restaffing because they used so much off-shore support - and what else?

Of course - you went to bed and the phone had to ring when you were asleep - how often do we keep busy or just read and watch TV and no phone calls - but have a nap - phone - I find this interesting

Take it easy when you can Shaz

And I am sending you my worn-out owl - tired of the lock-down - and also - best wishes

Dec

Hi Shaz - owl be thinking of you

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hello @Owlunar

So S2 had ADHD and depression--- he has had ADHD all the time but the depression is new

S2 had had lots of problems so he has always lead on his real mum for guidness , but now she has moved to another city , so I think he is feeling it

I think we made a difference last night , soo just keep in touch xx

S3 has ADHD too and last week he was punched in the back of the head , fell to the ground and then was kicked

I see the kidney specialist again in september , yes i am listed now but have to wait now for the fight time to have a transplant

the kidney specialist has sent me too a dietician again

yes mr shaz woke up and feels more tired now

@Former-Member, @Emelia8 , @Smc , @Anastasia

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Thinking of you and sending love and strength @Shaz51 I am sure you are there for your troubled son in ways no-one else can be. Hang in there lovely xx

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Hi @Shaz51

I'm sure that your S2 was glad that a supportive family in you and Mr Shaz helps - it's a pity that his mother has moved away - can he keep in touch with her on the phone? That's the current way of keeping in touch

And I am sorry S3 suffered a violent attack - that would be horrible news to receive - I hope he recovered from being punched and kicked - what a really nasy thing to have happen

The right time for you to have a kidney transplant - ah yes - I had not thought of this before but I guess that would be high on the elective surgery list because of the donor situation - it has to be done when the time is right - so true -

It's a technically serious situation - and complicated - again I wish you the best and hope you don't have to wait too long - but I think any time is too long to have to wait for an organ transplant

I understand about Mr Shaz being tired more now that I used to - for several weeks the pain in my shoulder was so severe no amount of rest of sleep would help - and at the time I sort of lost the plot on how tired I was. I really do get it now - going to bed tired and waking up tired

But life does go on - luckily I feel much better now

All the best Shaz

Dec

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