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Self Help Books - what's you favorite?

Self Help Books - what's you favorite?

Hi Everyone,

I've just started reading "You can Heal Your Life" by Louise Hay. I find it really uplifting and I am also very curious to see that a lot of the material the author covers are things that I have already been through in counselling sessions that I've had.

Specifically, Louise Hay insists that you don't have to do things simply because other people expect you to do them. You have to do things because you want to do them. Great advice! That is something that I have had to learn over the years and it has really helped me.

The book also advises you to say positive affirmations every day. I find this part a bit kooky - however, another book I read on neuroplasticity seemed to support using affirmations. They can actually re-wire your brain and create new neural pathways. Positive feeling should follow.

I just wanted to know what, if any, self-help books people out there have found useful? What was the best advice you ever got form a self-help book?

Love to hear any suggestions you might have!

By the way, I suffer from anxiety and have had severe depression in the past. I am not having any treatment at the moment, but I took medication on and off for around 5 years or so and I had counselling for around 6 or 7 years, but with several longish breaks. I think I might be gradually improving.

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Hi @plasmo,

sorry, I forgot to say 'hi' before in my previous post. You bring up some very good points. You might be interested in a book I read recently called "Psychobabble" by Stephen Briers.

This book explores some of the myths that self-help books have managed to gain acceptance for in popular cultue. There are many things in self-help books that have no scienfic basis and relying on these books to help you if you are seriously mentally ill would absolutely be a mistake.

What slef-help books are good for is motivating someone who is quite negative and passive to get out and do something for themselves. In doing something (pretty much anything) you actually do start to feel better, anyway. That much I know.

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Hi @MoonGal,

thanks for the suggestion, I think "The Serenity Principle" would suit me as I do self-medicate with alcohol, at times, for my anxiety. I will check out the library and see if they have it.

thanks!

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Re: Self Help Books - what's you favorite?

@Sahara - The principles in the Serenity Principle book are good for anyone, drinking alcohol or not. It is the principles I practice, still 25 years after reading it and now 6 years sober (again!) and I would recommend it to anyone of wobbly mind and overthinking tendencies.

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Hi Everyone,
love that there'somewhere to go (saneforums) when I'm lonely.
Wonderful list of book suggestions here. Its also encouraging to know others are on similar journey. I consider myself a non-reader - find it hard to concentrate or stay focused or organised enough not to misplace the book before i get to the end (which i do nearly every time frustrating). And i have to be in the right frame of mind (heart) that's open to change. All too hard most days. So my recommended reading list is short.
"JOHNATHAN LIVINGSTON SEAGULL"
"THE HOLY BIBLE" - GOD
"WHO MOVED MY CHEEZE" - JOHNSON
"A NEW EARTH" - TOLLE
"TAMING THE BLACKDOG" - ASBETT
"REALITY SLAP" - HARRIS
"LET IT GO" - JAKES
""YOU CAN HEAL YOUR LIFE" - HAY
"THE ROAD LESS TRAVELLED" - SCOTT PECK
"BATTLEFIELD OF THE MIND - MEYER
"Pilgrims Progress" - BUNYAN
"HINDS FEET ON HIGH PLACES" - HURNARD
"Joni & Friends Devotions" Erickson
Wow surprised i remembered that many.
Thanks for the laugh @Sahara, - so relate to everyone saying their "busy busy" as if its some great calling.
Blessings!

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my library had a book on ocd, i borrowed it twice

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Hi All,

I am a book worm, always have been, thousands of nights that I read through when I could not sleep. Often now I cannot focus on content for long, so I read (listen) books more than once or twice 🙂 Here are some more apart from a lot of great ones already mentioned:

Get out of you Mind and into your Life - Hayes

Go Wild - Manning

The Bipolar Survival Guide - Miklowitz

The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion - Germer

Get some Headspace - Puddicombe

Life without Ed - Schaefer

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Hi @Former-Member,

thanks for writing. Wow - "The Bible" - good suggestion. I haven't read it for a while. My favorite part of the Bible is the Sermon on the Mount. I really love that bit; I find it very inspiring. Good advice for people like me, who suffer anxiety, there.

And "The Road Less Travelled" - I read that when I was only about 20 years old! (I'm now 46) It's a classic. It's all about taking responsibility our ourselves, from what I remember. I loved the examples the author used of case histories of his own patients. It made the book very accessible.

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Hi @Former-Member,

thanks for sharing....no, I don't know any of those titles. "The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion" sounds good to me.

I really love to read, too. When I was at my worst with depression, I found that I could not even focus on the page and I wasn't able to read. That was terrible, as reading has always been a good escape for me. Now that I am feeling much better, I can always rely on a good book to make me feel more calm if I am anxious.

As I was recovering from depression, I found I only wanted to read books that were very light in subject matter. I read only 'chick lit' for ages! I could not deal with reading anything that had death or suffering in it, it would send my mind racing with scary thoughts.

Thankfully, this is rarely a problem for me these days, and I can read almost anything. Since recovering from depression, I have even completed a master's degree by research - which involved a great deal of reading! Looking back, I suppose being able to hold my concentration like that for extended periods was a good indication that I was on the road to wellness.

Sorry, I am raving on a bit.

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@plasmo

I get it; that is a very cute joke, there!

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