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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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Good job @MDT . You're right, the first day is always the hardest.

I hope today is a good day!

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I feel like i have a lot of discursive thought today.

For some reason. I keep trying to remind myself that things are not that bad. That it's okay. That I am getting things sorted out.

But it's not registering. Somehow it doesn't seem good enough.

I am at home now. Not in the mood to go anywhere plus it's too hot.

I mentioned lots of things about a friend who was assaulted as a kid. Then he has also broken up with his gf. That's had a bit of a ripple effect on the group.

Then there is the old story about my dad and what he is getting up to.

Then there is my sister who isn't well.

Then there is my mental health.

Then there is my career and money and moving out.

Then my relationship status..

There is just a lot on my plate. I find it hard to wind down.

Atm I can't wind down much. It's too hot to do anything. There isn't air con in our house except one room. And I hate sitting there with my family because we all have to do the same thing. Watching TV... And TV is crap these days.

Sorry I am just ranting. But I need to get it out if my system to process it.

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Sending warm wishes @MDT xx

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Haha good pun @eth
😉

But thanks 🙂

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@MDT hey hamsolo, I moved to a flat during Xmas break. Your situation sounds hard for a sensitive soul. May be try not to think too much cos that won't change the situation. Try to just look after yourself, do things that give you pleasures.Take Carr.

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Well said @Meowmy
Thank you my friend

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Hi @MDT

You do have a lot on your mind and maybe you are right that it isn't all that bad - just that right now you are not in a situation I would appreciate and I understand that

There are few things I would hate more in the place where I was living than the only room with A/C was full of the family all watching inane TV - that would make me really edgy and it is not a pleasant day at all

Your list is a good one - maybe it helped writing that - but if you think through it can you really help anyone with that today - or even in a week

Caring about so much for so many people is a very kind thing to do - but the weather is revolting today - hot and humid - better to get as far away from the TV as you can and try and cool off by putting a damp cloth around your neck and reading something to distract yourself

All the best Hamza

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Thanks @Owlunar

Mum and dad are home now. Just watching hogans heroes which I quite like. Dad is swimming outside.

It's not too bad atm. I might read my book soon idk. But my study is really warm. Just staying in air con now.

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Hope the days been ok @MDT

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@MDT Hey Hamsolo01 try not to make other peopes problems your problems eg: your father, sister, friend etc. concentrate on youself and getting yourself in a good headspace my friend. We all care about you. Love peaxxx

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