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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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@MDT hey Hamsolo, make sure you get plenty of rest and do things you enjoy. When it gets a bit tough. We need to be kind to ourselves.

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Confidences from friends can vary. @MDT A bit depends on whether they were just sharing and not wanting to burden you, or whether you have an obligation to do anything about it other than listen, and hold it in confidence as a gift of trust. If you cannot fix the problem try not to let it get you down, just make you wiser.

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It does show trust from your friend in you @MDT to talk about something so personal. He must believe you are not only trustworthy but empathetic - both things we see in you too so he has good judgement from my point of view.

It is pretty massive that he confided in you and I see how you feel burdened witht hat knowledge but all you need to do is listen and be there for him when you can (and that has to be on your terms to protect yourself also). Does he have a psych or therapist that he sees? It would be good to know that so if he hasn't you can suggest he sees someone ...and if he does then you can thank him for trusting you to confide in you but also suggest he talks this through with his therapist as they are better placed to help him work through this. That does not mean you are abandoning him but it does mean you are protecting yourself whilst making sure he has support - this stuff is super heavy so looking after yourself is imperative also.

As for your internship - it is something you are interested in so although it will undoubtedly throw up it's own challenges it should also give you some further insight into the area and hopefully allow you to work out if that is a direction you still want to go in the future. Goodluck for tomorrow

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Home from grocery shop.

Well today turned out okay.
I didn't know what I'd be doing today. But I managed to tidy up the house clean some things out. Tore up the boxes from the new dishwasher. That all emptied all over the carport... That was annoying. I got annoyed. But had to be done. Through it all out. Jumped in the ball for a swim.
Then came up to play pc. Then had to get dry cleaning. But went this morning and ended up not getting it til this arvo as I didn't see 3pm written on the ticket. Lol.

Picked up sister. She is sick. From the heat.
Sure enough at the shops there were no bags left.. So ended up just taking loose items with me to car. Sure enough they bought out new bags... Lol.

Now I am at home. I need to cook dinner. Will make it on BBQ. Will be too hot in kitchen.

Watching tennis now. Seems like Federer may crash out. But it's been a hell of a match..

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heyyyy my @MDT

@Zoe7, @Appleblossom , @Meowmy , @TAB

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Having another colonoscopy yay was just paperwork today guidelines say do it ha @Shaz51 lol @MDT

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Gday shazzy @Shaz51 🙂

All the best with it tabs @TAB

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Yeah no idea when . They will contac me @MDT

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@MDT hey Hamsolo, hope you get plenty of rest and nurture for yourself too.

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