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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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Well I dragged myself to the gym and ow I feel a bit better. Good idea to get blood flowing.

I am a bit more settled too. Baby steps

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it can be a bit circular @MDT re cause and effect.. bit of same situation here, out of comfort zone re work, money, life, but its how I see it that's the kicker. just making it worse. ok it is bad, ..but tt . hmm oh well, chin up

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Sometimes remembering that it could be worse can be useful @TAB
Like it really could be worse. Much much worse.

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I find my sister can be exhausting @TAB I sometimes snap at her becuase she's just always talking about random stuff. It's hard to negotiate the best way to speak to her at times because she's just always there and making a fuss over small things that are not even problems. Like we just got home and she has a whinge about the neighbour's angle grinder being used and the noise. Then I tell her it doesn't matter and she gets upset. It's silly.
Probably doesn't help that I am tired. Early night tonight anyway as I have early start tomorrow and next two days as well with new work. Even though it is casual it is something. I can already see parents getting over excisted on thursday night asking me how my first day goes - it's not even that big a deal this job.

I'm just sick of people I guess? Idk.. ranting now

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probably not in my case @MDT I have been in similar situation maybe twice before except its worse this time ? No safety net here lol

ok I hear you though

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Fair enough @TAB
Well we are here for what it is worth

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@MDT

Good you got the blood flowing.

I have just been doing neck exercises, corner stretches, chin tucks, not chin ups, cos for me thats best.

@TAB Just being silly and coincidentally was what I was doing for I logged in.

It took me 20 years to apply for a DSP after the injury and condition developed and then another 8 years to stop pushing hard with work.

Do what you need to do.

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has to be more than that else wouldnt bother going to dentist in few hours @MDT or bother asking for extension on power bill lol

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sometimes its best not to talk or to avoid or not to be somewhere you can hear her complaining about neighbors angle grinder @MDT especially if you upset each other. Go to your rooms kids. lol

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Here's something for you to think about @MDT the moral of the story behind my involvement with the mhs is acceptance. 13 years as a patient winds up with them preaching about acceptance. And that my friend is the one thing they couldn't even do for me as a person, at the beginning of my journey through the mhs, if that don't make them hypocrites-i don't know what does...
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