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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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Just spent last ten mins taking inventory

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Its okay its all a learning curve. My first job saved not much first 2 yrs then pre planned leaving and literally saved half my pay over 12mths ok very few outgoings then ok and wasted it all within 2 years haha @MDT

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Guess you’re having coffee? Take it easy @MDT 😎🤪

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Lol @TAB yeah how'd you know I was having coffee?

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🤪👾📡🤷‍♂️ routines @MDT lol

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@MDT hope you feel better as the day goes on. Take care.

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HI @MDT

We all have bad days and fall of the log now and again - some more often than others but we ALL have them -

But as you reflect - you have been doing well for a month - and it is disappointing to wake up feeling blah - have the bleakies - don't want to face the word - esp on Mondays - I get it

So there was nothing in the kitchen and you need to buy lunch today and break the budget - okay - it's time to do something nice for yourself and buy yourself a really nice lunch - make it a great sandwich - no need to break the bank - but definitely it's the day to do something nice for yourself

Maybe it's because it's Monday - I woke up early but went back to sleep and I really needed to start the day by going and getting a SIM card for my new phone - yes - I know I could get one delivered but going to the shop means someone will actually do the tricky work of getting it into the right place - so I need to do something nice for myself too - well - I stood in the hot shower for longer this morning - and that felt good

All the best for today Hamza - a bad start can work off as the day proceeds - let's hope it does for you this time

Dec

Yeah - Monday again

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Hamza lol @MDT 😸

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@TAB

We all need nicknames Tabby Cat

How are you going today - I hope you have recovered from the fun others thought you were having - was it Friday when you were a captive when drinking was compulsory

I would hate - I hope todaya is better - Monday again

All the best

Dec

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I wasn’t having a go @Owlunar just remarking maybe at the number of nicknames @MDT has ok some self created. Yes much better thanks, got to work yesterday perhaps even kicked a few goals despite it being 10 deg hotter than day I was really ill
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