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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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hope the day went ok @MDT and your anxiety has eased now

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Hey @outlander
You are a good sport. Even better forumite friend. 🙂
My anxiety is still around. I'm okay after my start up meeting. Heading back for dinner now and then bed.
Idk if my boss is annoyed or not. I'm. More worried about it going on some record... Idk.
Speculation doesn't help

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Well im nearly home. My anxiety is at a high
Possibly because of the days events. I feel like i am just griping and moaning. But I am genuinely uneasy about it. I fear that I have something to upset a higher ranked employee who has made it hard for me.

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Don't sweat on it to much @MDT. If it. Was that bad you definitely know you did something. Regroup and get ready for your last. Day. Of. The. Week tomorrow.

None of us get paid. Enough to. Fret about work after hours.

Try an d. Relax when you get home Get a good feed and night's sleep in.

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I am sure that is not the case @MDT and it is simply the new kid on the block having to start at the bottom. That totally sucks and does not help how you feel but look at it as knowing more areas and gaining more experience in a number of aspects of the job. That can only be a positive in moving forward and having a more permanent role in one are down the track. Unfortunately it is often the case when we start out in a new job that we have to start at the bottom - that does not mean that you are not capable or valued - it just is what it is to begin with. No doubt that is making you feel like you do not know your place in this job but that will come. Go easy on yourself - it is hard starting a new job and takes time to find your feet.

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@MDT hey hope you feel relaxed soon. Think it's normal to feel uneasy new to workforce. Probably just go with the flow. Do a good job as possible. You are nice person. Font think you have upset anyone. Hope you feel relaxed soon. Think it's quite normal at this early stage to move about a little. You are good person. You have good work attitude. Try to relax for now.

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Haha good point @Gazza75
None of us get paid enough to worry after hours. That's so true.


Yeah @Zoe7 even in the smallest way. Celebrate the small wins. Tomorrow itself is okay. It's just the associated crap around it I think. The yin and the yang.

I guess I have achieved much already. This time tomorrow I might be better.

Mum reckons I will. But if need be email them.

Conpared to lots of other government in competencies I guess it's small by comparison.

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Yeah forget about it tonight and relax as @Gazza75 has said @MDT Then tackle tomorrow when it comes. One more day and then time to yourself for the rest of the week

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Indeed @Zoe7 🙂
Well I have been showered and eating dinner now.
Watching hogan's heroes.

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Good job @MDT I love Hogan's Heroes - so funny.

I have washed up, cleaned the kitchen and sorted out all my school stuff that I had left in my bag. Now I am sitting in front of the tv too - have Beverly Hills 90210 on - it really is ridiculous so perfect as background noise

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