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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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I have faith it will @MDT but we all have our bad days too. Sometimes we just have to ride them out abit and start again the next day.

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I'm also really tired each day @outlander
Like at the end of my work day and also on my days off.

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I dont have set work hours @MDT so im prob not to much help but maybe its the adjusting thing? While you were filling your days before it wasnt the work your doing now. maybe after a little while when your bodies use to this new form of work youll feel a little less tired?
Maybe others would have abit more advice on what might be helpful...

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Yeah maybe I'll adjust to the changes and my body clock will too. I haven't been able to go to the gym as regularly as I was. I would've gone today but needed to sleep and take it easy. 50/50 whether I go tomorrow though.
Maybe I'm a bit bored too idk.
But thanks either way 🙂

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Go to gym hs-o1 @MDT lol its a familiar place, make The crossover to Your New Life.

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ohhh @MDT hugs

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Hello @MDT and all others

you are doing well ..as others have said..

you have been building up to finding a job that fitted your needs and satisfied your interest for some time..

this has taken up a great deal of your energy for some time now..

success in finding a job is great...you know and appreciate this...

at the same time...emptiness..

change my friend...

all of the space taken up with anxiety and worry about finding a job is no longer there at the moment and has left a blank..a feeling of emptiness..

this will all settle and adjust...your energy levels...change in gym times...tiredness from suddenly working as well..

you are on a new journey...savour the newness and the place that was worry is now emptiness which is good..

good to thrash it out...think about it...then enjoy the new spaces in your life...

notice the little things and enjoy

well done

Sophia

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Thanks @Sophia1
You are wise. And very kind 🙂

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Hi @MDT sounds like the job part of your life is going fairly well. I agree with others here that you are in an adjustment period and learning to balance and establish new routines. Hope today is one of the better ones for you. Saturday Soiree is happening if you or anyone else here wants a place to hang out today. Take care xx

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Sure thing @eth
Ill check it out later. Thanks as well 🙂
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