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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

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I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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Thanks @Everan 🙂
Nice to see you today

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Thanks @Meowmy
This too shall pass

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Looking for work took up so much of your time @MDT so now it it more about finding ways to occupy that time that works for you.

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thanks @MDT for keeping me in the thread.

One thing i just remembered for me is focus on the breath each breath counts helped alot just lately.

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Yeah @Zoe7
It's the better side of a problem to have I guess.

I am seriously considering some sort of creative outlet. Today I am putting together a compost bin with my sister (lol if she gets up soon) and I'm actually looking forward to it. Not because I like compost but because I like making things. It's good to do I find. Building and putting things together. We've already discovered that we need a new towel rack i the bathroom..

Anyway. Gently does it I guess

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I am much like you @MDT I like putting things together too. Have fun getting the compost bin together when your sister gets up lol You have reminded me I need to take some seeds into school tomorrow for a couple of kids whose previous planting of them haven't grown. Better get them out soon and put near the door so I don't forget them

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Catching ones breathe is crucial @Everan

The other day before work I was out of breath as I was nervous but also exhausted due to lots of walking. I just sat and drank my coffee and focused on breathing. It helped.

I believe in our modern life the pace is too fast. We have to take out time. We are only mortal creatures really

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Finances are hit and miss. With my school friends we seem to always be talking about who owes who. It's sort of a meme now. I just brush it off. I've moved on from a lot of the child like dependencies I used to have on such things.
Perhaps now that I have matured I crave more meaningful pursuits and ambitions. So I need to balance that out with small, well intended things @Zoe7

Like a compost bin lol.

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We certainly change and grow as we get older @MDT and have to occasionally leave things behind to move onto things that have more meaning for us - that is part of life but good that you recognise what does and does not work for you.

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@MDT

Reign those thoughts in. I felt abit the same today . Isolated . Alone. A sense of distrust in everyone . A sense of resentment for feeling how i feel.

Maybe look in the coping box and see if something new turns up . Might be time for a change in routine.

The day is still young my friend .

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