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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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Nah I'm watching lord of the rings @Zoe7
I might go to bed soon though.

Are you sure sleeping on the couch is okay? You won't hurt your back or something?

And yes. Take it one day at a time. Gentle steps forward my friend. That's all we can ask of ourselves when it is tough. Don't look into the future. Just focus on the present.

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I sleep on the couch a lot @MDT It is super comfortable and quite long so I fit nicely. Toby usually sleeps on the cushion above me so he is close by all night too.

Hope you can get some sleep and tomorrow is an okay day for you

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Ok @Zoe7
I wish I had a comfy couch lol.
Well either way take care. I'll chat to you tomorrow 🙂

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You take care too @MDT Sleep wel buddy

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Howd you sleep? @Zoe7

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I woke up this morning feeling okay. But while I was at the shops just now I had a really sharp sense of isolation and loneliness. That I may get worse and that leaving the house will be impossible for me.. That I would be confined to the house as I was too Sam cared or anxious or afraid to go anywhere that isn't home. Yesterday I felt it a bit at the shops.

Idk what caused it. But it's just a vision of a future me where I am all alone and isolated.. It wasn't nice at all 😞
Hit me too close to home.

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home is safe, change is scary @MDT prob not a harbinger ..just abide, dude

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True that @TAB
I think maybe all this new stuff re work has me in a new state of mind and I'm not used to it. Still adapting perhaps. Idk...

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That is scary @MDT Panic attacks are hard to get through - especially when you are out in public - so many variables that do not help.

I didn't sleep well - made it to bed but ended up getting up super ealy and had another couple of hours on the couch. Will likely need another nap today as still extremely tired.

I hope the rest of your day is a little easier on you buddy.

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Hi @MDT

I hear ya.

I find it particularly intense in the morning when i feel out of whack and fear going out. It builds up but often it is okay gradually it improves with practice and if you can connect it feels better.

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