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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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@MDT

Tbh I did not realise that the world would be more totalitarian as I aged. I thought/ foolish optimisim on my part that we had left it behind with WWII.

I am good today. Had a lovely visit with my son yesterday and connected really well with a few patients. It is something that comes naturally for me, and so I have stopped worrying about it and just let it happen. Though I always ensure my son knows he is moy first priority, but he thinks he knows me, and his view has been so coloured by his dad's view of our marriage, that my son does not really have a clue. SO he raises an eyebrow as I connect with an Englishman with a broad brogue or and Aboriginal or Sudanese or an adoptive child of Spanish culture who has no real bodily connection to the Spanish of his adoptive family although he likes it ... helping adoptive boy with healthy embodiment ... he is the guy I will tell your taming inner mongrel line .... Anyway it seems to be doing the others good too ... so I go with the flow ...

This week is a music bliss week for me ... lots rehearsals culminating in big fabulous concert in town. I hope son comes home this week too ... we will see ...

Keep doing whatya doing mate.

But few days ago really struggling with SI ... thats my life ....

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Are you Two people @Appleblossom ? Ok many ..
Yeah can relate re outside and no one gets anything well as groing up

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Yeah lots of "apparent" contradictions. @TAB Not due to masking as I never had the luxury of really covering the poverty or all the pain or deaths in my immediate family. Just my weird life. If I give up ... well ... not a good look or feel for anyone ....even tho old hand at sturglling with others and then my own SI .... almost gave up before joining the forum ... dangerously close .... so appreciate my mob/tribe here.

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Hey @Appleblossom
You are a joy to have on the forums. I always like hearing about your life and journey.
You are a rich human. You are complete.. Or at least as close to complete as one can get.

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Same with you @TAB re @Appleblossom

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You’re a funny bugger @Appleblossom well re talents and Life ..
My 57th bday in 27 days could I still go to sea? ..
We. Germans. Did it better than you Dutch ever did perhaps. Im old. 57 in less than a month. Nah und. Zeit etwas zu schaffen

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Yer complete AH LOL um sure @Appleblossom /@ bosom ha has many facets like a block of .. cheese 🧀..

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Thank you @MDT

We have walked the walk and talked the talk.

Its just that I think your phrase really will find good soil in the dude I mentioned.

"Funny bugger" from the purring @TAB is hi prayse indeedly .... Not very nationalistic here ... being a hybrid ... bongrel .. hangry mitch ... mare ... a bit cross with dutch side of the family ... dont get me on mee high mare ... re europa and linguistic curiosities ... it was def my Aussie dad and experience in THIS COUNTRY that gave me my watery side. Mum's only contribution was long showers ... made sense from where she came from ... but not a good look here with all the droughts coming on ...

I have lived a rich life and I want my son to feel free enough in his own being to be able to do so... Its been a reel hard fortnight and a lot of WORK policy changing in the mental health field to do ...

They just found a portuguese map

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Burnsie snd Dracula regulars at your place oh ok ..

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Go to Pt Pirie SA @AB lol nice beaches etc ha xx
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