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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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Hi forumites. Happy Sunday.

@outlander @oceangirl @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @TAB @Bunniekins @BlueBay @Meowmy @Everan @Teej @Appleblossom @eudemonism @frog @eth @Gazza75 @Everan @Former-Member @Angels333 @Doglover @Sophia1 @saturnzoon @Faith-and-Hope @CheerBear @Former-Member


I was up til 2am watching soccer. Good news is my team won.

I feel a bit sick this morning. Possibly from that and also a big break in stress. Went to dinner for fathers day last night and then caught up with some people. Was a bit dull afterwards but good to see them.
Family dinner was great though. Nice Greek restaurant I went to a while back.

I had a Really weird dream overnight. Lots of questions and and not many answers. Probably stay that way for a while now.

Interview tomorrow. Don't know if I will take the role but I figured it'd be good to see what it involves and what it pays. Then decide. I accepted the offer on Friday for the other thing. Perhaps part time will be a better option for me as I can adjust from what I'm doing now - not much.

Anyway. I hope your Sundays are nice.

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@MDT going really well. Take care of yourself.

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I think you were very wise to take the part-time position @MDT Not only will it give you time to settle into working but you will get experience as well. That will all be good for you moving forward and in the future you can move up to fulltime when the right opportunity presents itself - well done buddy

See how it goes tomorrow - you may find it is not for you but if it is and you really want that position then go for that too. Either way you are going to have work and money coming in and all your efforts have payed off

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Hey @MDT hear hear to what @Zoe7 said!

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@outlander @oceangirl @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @TAB @Bunniekins @BlueBay @Meowmy @Everan @Teej @Appleblossom @eudemonism @frog @eth @Gazza75 @Everan @Former-Member @Angels333 @Doglover @Sophia1 @saturnzoon @Faith-and-Hope @CheerBear @Former-Member

Afternoon forumites.

Had the interview. It's a decent role.

It's a case of choice now. More importantly what I want to spend time on. I am passionate about a lot. I am now in a position to make a choice. Idk if I am offered anything yet. But based on my preferences and intentions for where I am passionate and interested I don't believe today's opportunity is ideal.

I know I may sound spoilt. Or picky. But I am a fighter and I know what I want at this stage in my life. My inner mongrel is tamed and I'm no longer a recluse or youthful ignoramus.
The past few years have taught me the value of self respect and self esteem. I've learned A LOT. Including also from when I went travelling late last year.

I think that self esteem and self confidence is something we lack because of MH. It's something I have had none of in the past. I have more of that now however.

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@MDT So well done, remarkable achievement. I think you indeed have learnt the most important lesson in life, self respect and self confidence. You came from a place of difficulty, despair, hopelessness and helplessness. But you persisted in times of great distress. You have a lot to give. You will know which one is the place to do it and do it well.

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What a wonderful, positive post @MDT Once again you impress me with your clarity on where you are at and what you want from life. As I say, if you don't have a dream you can't make it come true .. flip that .. you do have a dream and it is coming true. You deserve accolades for all the efforts and progress you have made. Cheers xx

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well done @MDT

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thank you @eth @Shaz51 @Meowmy

🙂 You are very kind and have helped like so many here

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It seems to me like you have already made up your mind even if you do get an offer from this place today @MDT Do what feels right for you because that is the first step in being happy in your job.

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