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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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yea sick of it too 1/169 off 33 @MDT

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Shivers @TAB
Thats decent
Who got out?

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warner, was really weird shot @MDT

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Didn't have sandpaper to help @TAB Lol

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haha yeah people from other countries have done same or worse and virtually got away with it @MDT

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Bunnings should sponsor @TAB
Lol

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hardy har @MDT

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Just need to rant/vent. I'm not going to tag anyone

I am sick of feeling like I have to prove myself to employers. I've always felt that I had to prove myself to people generally and I thought it had stopped but it seems like the only area where that matters is an area where I fail at it. I'm just tired of it all. I'm worried it will affect my work ethic and attitude. I'm really sick of feeling like a failure and wasting my life.

I want an opportunity but noe is giving me one... Because I haven't proven it enough apparently.

I am tired and annoyed at myself for not sorting it out sooner.

Here I am at 25 and still bloody struggling. It's almost as if the world has no time for 25 year old guys anymore - they just assume it's fine. It's pathetic and it's no wonder so many men suicide.

Maybe I am too honest or not honest enough. May I am a coward or too bold. I really don't know anymore and I'm so bored of it.

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25 is the new 18 @MDT perhaps migrate to a foreign country and apply for a special area visa there is one in effect now where i live they want 500 extra immigrants to give jobs to lol

anyway sounds like you need to be doing something else you will still be at home age 40, guess people are now

get help dunno Assume you cant get newstart, but cant you access job programs?

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No idea @TAB
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