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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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Evening forumites
@oceangirl @outlander @Shaz51 @Appleblossom @Zoe7 @BlueBay @Bunniekins @BryanaCamp

Hope you are well.
I submitted some stuff today and yesterday. One of them was a no. No feedback. Even within an hour. Oh well. Still waiting on another.
Tomorrow might change it up because I need money now lol.

I really liked the conference over the weekend because it refined my ideas about everything I've studied. But I'm unsure what to do next. Maybe it's a case of keep trying til something works. Same old really.

It's crushing my self esteem but that's inevitable I guess lol

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Evening to you Hams @MDT

I hope you're able to find a job soon, even if its a stepping stone to where you want to go. Good luck buddy.

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get a book on success perhaps, Bruce Wayne @MDT apparently failures are a non-count item .. so long as you learn something and keep trying

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It might mean that you have to broaden your horizons in regards to work for the mean time while you continue to look for work in the area you want to go in @MDT Even something part time so you can get some money and still apply for things you really want - it will give you some structure in your days as well as experience.

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@MDT

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hey OG @oceangirl

thanks 🙂 I appreciate that my friend.

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Pretty much. Maybe I have learnt a lot now @TAB lol

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Indeed @Zoe7

Feels like I'm going around in circles these days

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It is hard to get off that roundabout when you are on it @MDT So breaking the cycle is important.

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yeah well fun's only just starting @MDT so coping skills/sense of enjoyment/wonder and self compassion needed

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