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A new start (kind of)

A new start (kind of)

Hi @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @TAB @Sam3 @utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @oceangirl @Sans911 @Snowie @Former-Member @soul @BryanaCamp @Former-Member @Bunniekins and whoever else is there in forumland

I have tagged some of you because we are speaking lots and some others haven't been around for long. If it's too much for you then that's okay I respect that. I won't take it personally.

I have decied to start up a new thread after my psychiatrist appointment today. Off to a new start.

Simply put, he made the point that I am pressuring myself to do stuff far more quickly than what I thought I could. When this approach fails, it feeds back into the loop that was there before (the "i am not good enough", "I have limited time", "I have wasted my life" etc).

He said it was good I didn't go to hospital and avoided ending up there. This doesn't help. What does help is changing the approach etc.

It was a good appointment. I see him again in the morning and then maybe someone else next week.

So it's not entirely hopeless or lost now.

He thought that pressuring myself to go and get this visa would be the wrong decision, given my state of panic yesterday and also this morning.

He said that I need to hold off on pressuring myself. By saying "okay now that I am in Australia for a bit longer, I need to go and find a job quickly" because this is simply unhelpful. It's the wrong attitude and will only feed back into those loops.

So am I feeling more settled? Yes. Do I know what is next? No. Does this bother me? No.

I see my psychologist tomorrow afternoon. I will get something from my psychiatrist in the morning about all of this I think, which he said he can send off as part of the extension on the visa (which lasts for 2 years anyway). It's just a case of extending the timeframe for when I can receive it.

This would effect my chances of working in defence, mi6 etc but these are already off the table for me given my history anyway. The same is the case for the military and police. It does seem like some things are cancelled out because of my MH, but maybe they are things I was never keen on anyways.

That's a side issue for now.

Going to the UK - still a goal. It's a case of how I get there and WHAT I do when I get there. We have established that rocking up with no job or place to live is too chaotic. Especially based on my experience and degree background and skills. But the UK is a goal. My Psychiatrist said "Poland is always there" so I think it might be worthwhile sending them an email asking if I could be either placed on next year's list OR alternatively get some of my money back given the circumstances. Again, not my concern for now.

My concern at the moment is explaining all this to dad. My Psych spoke to my mum today too so she is in the loop. I think he will understand, he wants what is best for me. It takes some adjustment and time. But this is life and how we live it.

THanks forumites. See you a bit later today

Edit: I heard today that one of my old tutees that i helped in 2017 is working and is at uni. Doing well and studying. I joked that we should meet up for coffee and then i can get a job at the same place lol. So today has had a silver lining. This was the student who nearly quit school. But I can only take as much credit for what they achieved. Most of it was them

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Just finished @Zoe7
I'm feeling average but it was good to get out and do some exercise I think

My mind is playing scenarios over and again. Bad and worse. But I'm trying settle my mind and the thoughts I have.

For the most part just remembering things could be a lot worse.

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You are doing the right things. @MDT

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Thanks @Appleblossom
Have house to myself for an hour or so. Can just chill out

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Hey @MDT you have a good day too

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Hi @MDT my brain also does the over & over thing too ...relentlessly. You’ve been to the gym which is great & hopefully you’re “chilling out” now. Like you, I try to remember things could be worse but that can trigger some anxiety. It seems to me from your posts that for this point in time it was absolutely the right decision. The ruminations may be part of anxiety/depression symptoms (which I hope you’re receiving treatment for with that pdoc & psych) as well as just plain normal for such an event. @Zoe7 has previously stated to me “the trick is to let those thoughts happen but do not dwell on them for longer than you need to - that takes practice too”. I think the more I ‘analyse’ the worse I get, so engaging in an occupation requiring my full concentration is the best antidote for me probably (feeling overwhelmed in isolating a do-able occupation is also sometimes a barrier to address - ok so now I’m going to try to focus on baking a cake for the kids’ lunchboxes rather than the clutter around the house which seriously really gets me down & especially with a week at home ahead of me (you’d reckon I could focus on actually taking action or even the squillions of positives wouldn’t you?!) Will post some slogans I found that you & others might find encouraging

@TAB @Appleblossom @Zoe7 @outlander (Hi @outlander thanks for including me in your morning greetings!)

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good afternoon @MDT , @Appleblossom , @Sam3 , @TAB , @Zoe7

the sun is shinning here and very hot , got the aircon on

and have a big headache/ neck ache

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Look after yourself @Shaz51 Hope your head/neck ache gets better quickly. Cooking a late lunch/early dinner here - needing to eat despite not feeling very well when I do - hopefully eating early will not keep me up tonight.

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hope you feel better soon @Zoe7 xxxx

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Hope you do too my sister Thought I was a lot better today but feeling unwell again this afternoon - needing to eat though so chicken and salad to see how that goes @Shaz51 Is your mum home or still in hospital?

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chicken and salad sound very nice @Zoe7

i had leftover veges , i though that might help my stmach ache -- hope soo

mum is back home again with AB`s , she looked a bit brighter today than yesterday

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