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@Serenity1 Hi Jojo7 sorry today has been so awful for you and your daughter :(. I remember my three kidults coming home at various stages and saying that they were bullied. Not badly as they dealt with it (made me as mad as hell though particularly with my disabled son2). Anyway what can one do but do exactly what you have done. Hopefully the teacher will get more switched on and observe the situation for what it is and keep these girls away from your daughter in class would be a start.

Ahhh don't worry about these mums ignoring you. I figure not everyone can like you and you don't have to like everyone either. I tell that to my children all the time - and myself when I am feeling rejected.Then again it could be a variety of reasons why people were non-communicardo this morning eg: Monday morning, husband troubles etc. Don't take it to heart. Just smile at them and if they don't respond it is their loss not yours. greenpea xxx

@Serenity1 Oh Jojo7 I don't know why people cannot be kinder to each other .... it is so much easier to be kind than to be mean. Reading your words made me shed tears (which is hard for me to do because of the medication I am on). Keep us all updated with your daughter and you are definitely not an idiot. YOU are a caring, lovely mum who just wants what is best for her daughter and herself. Love greenpea xxx

@CheerBear Hi CheerBear yes if I cared about what people thought about me I would be a nervous wreck. Personally I don't give a rat's *rse and that is the truth. I have learned to be mentally tough over time but none the less it does take practise and a belief in yourself.

Hi @Serenity1 ,

You are not alone. Please don’t think that. There are a lot of us who care, and I actually understand what it is like, to be shunned, to have the world against you and still have others dependent on you to protect them. It can be overwhelming, but that is a mental state, not all of reality.

If you can find a moment to meditate a bit, then mentally step back and identify your feelings in your situation (or a scenario), it can help you to separate your feelings from the situation, and you will be better able to come up with a strategy to deal with it.

I don’t know if what I learned from my own situation would help you, or whether my case could apply to yours. I am just going to share it anyway. Hope it helps. In the past when I had to aggressively cope with my situations, people seemed to be afraid of me or offended by me. In retrospect, I think my feelings flowed out on to my facial expression, demeanor and tone of voice, and so people were seeing aggressiveness and franticness. Most of the time nowadays, my low self-esteem affects my countenance. I think I look worried and unsure, and people look like they think I am odd and tend to avoid me. On rare occasions when I felt at ease with myself in the past, people were generally at ease around me.

If people shun you for shallow reasons (materialistic or popularity), they are not worth your attention anyway.

It helps us cope, to keep in mind the positive things. I am glad that the teacher listened to you. I hope your daughter is having a better time now. And, a popular mom would talk to you, so you can just focus on the people who are nice to you.

@Serenity1 :)xx