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outlanderSenior Contributor
how do you stop being in the way? i always seem to be in the way unless im wanted for something for someone else. since having a boot on as well its slowed me down abit and limited me being able to walk up bills as much or get wet etc and im just in the way. i keep getting growled at or angry looks because im bloody hopeless at everything.
i never know where i should be or where i can be anymore.
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Hope4meSenior Contributor
Good morning @outlander
I'm so sorry about the 'boot' situation. Sometimes the Universe (or our subconscious) can be cruel when forcing us to slow down and take a break. (no pun intended 😉)
Isn't it time you allowed someone else to look after you? It's not a crime to need people once in a while hun. I know it's hard considering how invaluable you've made yourself, but value works both ways ya know?
If they seem annoyed, maybe talking (and crying) about how you feel will bring out their empathy and let them know how difficult it is to be in this position.
Thinking of you;
xo 
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Hope4meSenior Contributor
I don't know what to say @outlander
You seem so sad having gone through so much with your family. Are you in contact with a psycologist? Maybe talking with them can ease some of those isolated feelings. Having a cry might take the edge off too.
If asking for help has had that type of response; shame on them. Just take care of you. Why? Because you ARE worth it. Give to yourself what you want from others...time, patience, smiles and attention.
I wish I could do more. Sending warm thoughts your way...
Hope xo
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Hope4meSenior Contributor
You're welcome @outlander
Take care xo
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frogSenior Contributor
Hey @outlander I'm sorry to hear how hard it is 
You are such a giving person and sometimes others can just take more and more 
Is there anywhere you can retreat to?
I think you're worth it
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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